My wife and I are both white. One night, I rented a porn flick just trying to spice things up for my wife. She didn't say much or show a reaction to most of the movie. However, during one scene where a well hung, muscular black man made love to a pretty white woman, she said, "Now that's hot. She's going for it" about three times and began massaging me. Later, when I asked her if she liked the movie, she said, "I would never cheat on you, baby, but I love the way black ***** look on tv. I wouldn't want one for real, though. They just look good on tv." I told her that I wasn't worried one way or the other. We all have out fetishes. I even joked that I may get her a black stripper for her birthday. She laughed and said, "No, I just like the way they look on tv." About six months passed and I offerred to buy her a dildo. She searched the whole web site and picked a large, realistic black one. Am I too accepting of my wife's fetish? Is this a clue that i'm not satisfying her? Cheating?
2006-07-14 07:08:04 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I get my wife the large, realistic black dildo, will she get so used to it that she no longer craves me? I love to utilize her fantasy and reap the benefits for both of us ;) , but I don't want her to get too curious! I guess what I'm trying to say is: will this satisfy her curiosity and let her have fun...or make her more curious and tempt her to cheat?
2006-07-15 05:57:16 · update #1
If you were really sensitive to your wife's needs, you would grow a big black dick.
2006-07-14 07:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by kascheuew 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to worry about. As a woman, I can tell you that fantasies are just that, Fantasies! It's a turn on to imagine doing things that are taboo. Things you know that you would never, ever do in real life, but you don't' mind thinking about it because it causes such a great orgasm! Maybe you have had fantasies about being the only guy with two or three women who did any and everything you wanted them to do. Whatever it is, just the fact that you look at porn, lets me know that you more than likely play out certain fantasies for yourself. No, your wife is not, and probably never will cheat on you with a black man. I've had plenty of fantasies over the years about white men being a slave for me, doing anything I tell them to do to me, no questions asked. However, I would never, ever cheat, and in the light of day, I am sometimes ashamed at some of my fantasies. Good luck, and continue to be open minded, she will love you for it!
2006-07-15 09:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by candy0813 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. She just seems to have a thing for black or the idea that black men have bigger penises. Probably just a fetish. If you have any other signals that might suggest that she is cheating on you?
My best advice is to talk with her. COMMUNICATE. Tell her how her fetishes make you feel. But, dont get into a screaming match. No name calling. Talk in a calm voice. If she yells at you, ask her to stop and that you are not yelling at her. If you need to away to cool down, then do it. Come back and talk later. Never go to bed without resolving the problem and making up.
2006-07-14 07:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by JFCHIRO 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I get it, if it looks good on TV it looks good in person. Don't worry about it, it's a fantasy just lay back and enjoy the ride. Oh, whatever you do don't get a black stripper. Because male strippers or a little more explicit than the female ones. The stripper will be waving that thing in her face and making her touch it and look like she's licking it. No, don't get the stripper just stick to the porn movies. You go boy!
2006-07-14 07:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok i'm somewhat perplexed, you rented a grimy action picture to objective to turn your spouse on. It did, you want to employ yet another yet you're literally worried. What about precisely? the very incontrovertible actuality that a porn megastar replaced into sexually arousing or that it replaced right into a black porn megastar? that's the age old delusion, you get grew to grow to be on with the help of a few thing new. For her it really is a black guy, vast deal. in case you get your rocks off observing a coupke of lesbians in a movie i'm darn particular your spouse gained't panic that you want her to have an affair with yet another lady. that's delusion!!! If it frak you out that a lot I advise you do not get any extra action pictures of that ilk in the destiny.
2016-11-02 01:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she is just wanting to try new things this is normal and I have done the same thing to my husband. My husband done the same thing to me and know I have a new friend in my dresser. He works away from home so it is no big dill. But if you are that worried about it tell her I'm sure that she will understand. I would not ever cheat on my husband. Just because he is open to new ideas and new things for me to try and to do I think it helps for a women to us a dildo because she can get a feel of how she wont's it and how others would feel with out having to worry about hurting you or getting any disses from experimenting so I think that you are doing the right thing by letting her try it/
2006-07-14 07:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by rainbowyates 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are exactly that. Fantasies. Both men and women will/can/and do have fantasies that really get them going when they think about it, read about it, or see it in photos or videos, but if they were ever faced with it in real life they'd be horrified, or wouldn't know what to do. I wouldn't worry too much about your wife's fantasy. Although, kudos to you for indulging in her desires. That's what will make your relationship a strong one if you're comfortable with feeding each other's desires, even if they may be uncomfortable or dark. As long as your sex life is healthy and the rest of relationship is going well, I would relax and enjoy the fact that your wife is a passionate individual. Take advantage of that, and get her revved up and snuggle in the sack as often as possible.
2006-07-14 07:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by bibliophile_1976 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your on the right path. Keep the relationship fresh and spicy. Always think of new things to do with your mate. Instead of the same old positions and locations. So what if you have a home, get a room or something. Turn one another on with as many ideas as you can. She may have a fantasy just make sure your fulfilling them without selling your soul. "A marriage can still be fun"
2006-07-14 07:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by deb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should accept this fetish. Keep an eye on her. As long as its with a dildo and not a real man I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-07-14 12:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No not at all!!!! she has repeatedly told you she isn't interested in pursuing it for real, its just a thing that turns her on in her head. i really wouldnt worry about it. mostly though i would read your question again and look at the relationship you two obviously has, she trusts you enough to share the things in her head with you, and that is GREAT! don't risk losing that by worrying about something that you shouldn't worry about. sounds to me like she loves and trusts you very much. just enjoy being that close to her, its a good thing. if she didn't love you, trust me, she wouldn't feel comfortable sharing those things with you. that level of trusting and comfort are hard to find, obviously she thinks you are a great guy to give you that, appreciate the gift and know that you must have earned it and it has great value to her!
2006-07-14 07:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats what fantasys are. Something that you thinhk but dont act on them. If she got he bick black plastick d**k now dont worry about it let it have fun with it. Its a lot better than to find afro man in the closet. Good luck.
2006-07-14 07:27:07 · answer #11 · answered by xadralix 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋