My boyfriend and I are deeply in love. His X-wife continues to battle him over more child support and does not let us have peace in our lives. She uses his children against him, and that hurts my boyfriend very much. It has gotten to the point where he cannot make ends meet with his own finances, and I have had to dish out my money so he can have enough to pay child support and private school tuition, on top of my share of the house hold expenses. I really think the only way we can be happy is if we move far away so that she will leave him alone! How can I convince him that this is the only way we will live in peace?
2006-07-14 06:48:21 · 13 answers · asked by secsimamassita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is amazing isn't it. No sympathy for divorced dads. My husband of ten years is the father of two and his ex is still screaming for "my money for your kids" every other day. My husband works 12 hours a day to try to provide while she has been unemployed for years and does absolutely nothing to help support "their children'.Then she has the nerve to tell the kids that Dad is unreliable, not around, does not care. How could he be around when he has to spend all his days working just to pay support!
She drives a BMW paid for with child support money while the kids only have one pair of shoes to wear. We had to spend money on lawyer fees last year to try to control her going after more money. The children are on my health insurance plan (the second wife) and she is not a bit embarrassed about that.
My point is this.... if your husband's ex sounds like the loser I just described- someone with nothing going for her, the nightmare you are in will never end, trust me on that one. He can not move away and abandon his kids but some distance can be helpful. We moved to 75 miles away - still can do visitation but far enough away to maintain our privacy.
2006-07-14 08:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by Stepmomof2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so wrong about this. This so called man is a father and who the hell cares if he can make ends meet or not? His first responsibility is to his children. It's on you if you decide to help him with child support. Child support isn't based on what he's comfortable for him. He should have thought about this before he impregnated his wife. What kind of so called man is he that he would move away from his children? Not you not any woman should come before his children and he should want to be near them. If he were a real man he would step up to the plate and accept his responsiblity. Who cares if you're happy? You two deserve each other.
2006-07-14 07:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he moves far away from his ex wife, the problem is he will be moving away from his children too. If he is a dedicated father, he won't want to do that. Also, it will be harder for the kids and he will probably see him less.
As far as him not being able to afford child support, have you gone back to court to try to reduce his expense? That is about the only thing you can do. It will take time. She is probably mad and hurt that he has moved on already and is in love. Once she meets someone and heals, she will calm down.
2006-07-14 06:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's your live-in haven't you already convinced him. Poor baby asked to pay child support..... boo-hoo. When you get in the middle of a family, you might as well expect this. Yeah go ahead and move far away, maybe Mexico or anyplace where they don't track down dead-beat dads.
2006-07-14 07:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's having to pay out more than he can afford, he needs to go back to court and have the monthly check reduced. She's mad because he's got another woman now and the only way she can get at him is through the children. Is he willing to move and be without his children? I think that's a decision he will need to make for himself without added pressure from you.
2006-07-14 06:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never live in peace sweetie, he's not the only man on this earth your entitled to fall in love with. if he really loved you like you think he does, he would have never brought you into his ****** up situation in the first place, he would have ended it some way with her. courts take his money because he is the father and he is responsible for his childrens well being. now he needs to be a man and get his **** together instead of him coming into your life and messing it up. get real
2006-07-14 07:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by hippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dig some dirt up on the ex... maybe she is a closet prescription pill popper... maybe there is a way you can get custody and she goes to jail.
2006-07-14 06:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by escaped_mental_case 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about this love, this guy comes with too much baggage and it's costing you out of the back pocket.
2006-07-14 06:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear Kanye West's song "Gold Digger" playing in the back of my mind... She probably resents him and doesn't think he will ever do enough to make up for their separation.
2006-07-14 06:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by karekare330 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thnk you can, if you do talk to him about ti, with out sounding mad or sarcastic.
Do you know Miss Scorpion's email address? Well, i guess my question to her, doesn't really matter. I just want to know who she was refering to when she said, Honest to God, here I am!
2006-07-14 06:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋