2006-07-14 06:31:15 · 28 answers · asked by Mocha Choco Latte 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I told him that if I knew it would be like this I would never had married you
2006-07-14 06:39:08 · update #1
Verbally apologize first. Buying something for him will just look like you're buying his forgiveness. Give him you time, attention, consideration. As long as you are thinking more on how you can love him more, you will not be tempted to fall into the selfish, self-centered times when we can get mean.
"The man who finds a wife finds a good thing; she is a blessing to him from the Lord." Proverbs 18:22 (TLB)
"If you can find a truly good wife, she is worth more than precious gems! Her husband can trust her, and she will richly satisfy his needs. She will not hinder him but help him all her life...She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household and is never lazy. Her children stand and bless her; so does her husband. He praises her with these words: "There are many fine women in the world, but you are the best of them all!" ...Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn't last, but a woman who fears and reverences God shall be greatly praised. Praise her for the many fine things she does. These good deeds of hers shall bring her honor and recognition from people of importance."
Proverbs 31:10-31 (TLB)
A wife is three things. She is human, female and feminine.
As a human being, a wife is a creation of God with a four-fold makeup of heart, soul, mind and body. (Mark 12:30) In other words she is a complex creation of social, spiritual, mental and physical characteristics. And each one of these four areas of her life is crying out to be fulfilled...just like the male species. There are specific human needs that must be met in order to be happy and successful. A wife (as well as a husband) is on a life long journey to satisfy those needs...even when they don't fully understand them. More on this in another lesson.
The second part of a wife is that she was born a female. That means she has certain needs and she experiences certain fears that males do not experience. Society has imposed responsibilities and female images that are sometimes overwhelming and frightening.
The third part of a wife is that she is "feminine". She is a female by birth and a woman by age...but she can only become feminine by maturity.
"And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Genesis 2:18-24 (KJV)
Most men understand and accept the reality that life without a woman is not a good life. The companionship and support of a wife cannot be replaced by anything else. In a pure marriage the man and woman are so closely related that they are like one flesh. Their ambitions and commitments to one another go beyond any other commitments, including the parents who birthed them. The only devotion greater than that of husband and wife is a devotion to God. A man is very fortunate to find a loyal and devoted wife. When he does, he should honor, respect and love her with all his strength.
One man for one woman is the Biblical mandate and law for a wholesome and fulfilling life. It isn't just a "religious" law...it is a practical law that meets the needs of human beings as well as society as a whole. The tragic results of our permissive society that allows for multiple marriages and "extended families" are well documented. Someone humorously suggested that "divorce can be an early warning sign of a faulty relationship"...but divorce and separation are not Biblical options that God will approve even though our society has overwhelming accepted them as an answer for marital conflict.
Mature women enter into marriage as a life-long commitment. They seek a companion and friend...Women need men just as men need a good woman. A good husband brings strength, stability and encouragement to the home...something that all women need...and desire.
2006-07-14 06:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
oh man-- i've been there hun-- and idk why i was ever soo mean too him to begin with. *sigh* anyways-- this is what i did.
first, go out and buy some new, sexy lingerie (victoria's secret is great), come home-- make his favorite food-- from drinks to deserts and etc etc. let this good treatment go on for about a couple days or so you know?
throughout these days always make what he likes, treat him like the king he "knows" he is (haha) then @ night, seduce him-- play with him non-stop and get him really into the mood. just think of alllll the things your man likes/loves and do it for him.
and a tip for when you're in bed-- be EXTRA spicy/dirty-- in ANY way you can, from what you wear, to how you move, to what you do. try new things and i'm sure he'll love it.
i hope that helped you!! good luck hun!!
2006-07-14 13:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by jetters007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is such a easy question, sex of course always makes them happy but try post it notes in several places saying how sorry you and you love him if he takes his lunch to work put notes in there or in his car, write something on the mirror so he sees when he gets up, cook his favorite meal and just pamper him for a while if your truely sorry and you were in the wrong . give him a good night tonight do what he likes you to do or something youve never done before. good luck hope it works
2006-07-14 14:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by t_ibrahim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This won't cost you anything. Apologize and promise yourself and him that you won't be mean to him again. Being mean belittles you as well as your husband. What I try to do when I feel a flash of anger is to focus on my breathing. In- out- in-out. That will calm you, lower your blood pressure and take you out of the heat of the moment. Then you can treat him as you want to be treated. Remember that the kind of energy that you put out, you will attract to yourself. Be kind and kindness will come to you. Do it for yourself- you're far too worthy a person to be mean. I wish for you Peace and Joy.......
2006-07-14 13:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by gdollenes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and give him a nice body massage, then make him up his favorite meal, with candles at the table then have him pick out a favorite movie he likes and you guys sit down on the couch together and cuddle up with him and watch the movie, then make wonderfull love to him when you guys go to bed.
2006-07-14 13:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by Piper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a night that all about him.. basically be his on personal servant for the night.. make him dinner.. , give him a full body massage, wait on him hand and foot.. take care of his needs .. doesnt cost anything and if he's like most men they love to be catered too..
2006-07-14 13:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pull out the oven mitts! A good homecooked meal, and a relaxing evening will calm things over.
2006-07-14 13:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by justme_tictac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about this . you cook him a wonderful dinner . of course his favorite meal . with champaign . give him a masage than enjoy a wonderful bubble bath together . that sounds like a nice thing to do . && maybe he will give you something special later .
2006-07-14 13:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him his favorite dinner or take him out to a sports game or something local. Ask him what he would like to do.
2006-07-14 13:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him his favorite meal and serve it to him in a thong. Put an apology card in his vehicle. Use your imagination.
2006-07-14 13:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋