So, I belong to this online dating site for a month now. I'm 21. And, this guy in another state imed me. So, I took his im just to be polite. He asked for my number and email so, I gave it to him just to be polite. I thought he would call me once or something. He gave me his number and email as well. We been talking for like a week now. But, it is really making feel uncomfortable. When he imed me he says stuff like call me tommorrow I do not have work, and he calls me on a regular basis now. Emails me and says I have a crush on him and he is flattered. I never said I did. He ims me and asked me what I wear to bed. I responded just pjs to be polite. He said he wears boxers. He asked if I wear a bikini I responded to his question just to be polite. He says I arouse him. and, he wants to visit me. After this conversation, I began to feel uncomfortable about him. I'm trying to avoid him by not answering the phone or taking his ims. Is this guy acting strangely? If so, what should I do?
2006-07-14 06:29:26 · 15 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stop talking to him after you tell him to stop calling you.
He is being disrespectful and creepy by asking you those questions. Plus, he is showing the signs of someone who is a control freak/stalker by calling you all the time. Get caller ID and a new email address.
NEVER EVER EVER give your phone number to anyone over the Internet.
You don't need to give out a phone number to talk to people over the Internet. Get a microphone and Yahoo Messenger for voice chat.
2006-07-14 06:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by murkglider 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have the right to be uncomfortable. It sounds, to me, that he is acting like he is married. He is trying to get straight to the attraction part, and arousal part...that's unusual for a man that is really looking for a companion. Most guys that want to find their soul mate will take their time to get to the more personal stuff. In the future, don't worry about "being polite". It is right to be polite, but is isn't right to give out your phone number until you know more about the guy. Have him give you his number, then you call him with your number blocked, and learn from the live conversation if he will be allowed to continue further into the relationship. Good Luck
2006-07-14 06:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to get over the "I'm trying to be polite" stuff. If you do not have an interest in someone why respond to their IM's or emails? When you do stuff like that you end up in the situation you are in. Email the guy and tell him you are not interested. After you have done this block his email and delete him as one of your friends from your IM and block him on there also. Of course do not answer any of his calls. I hope for you sake this does the trick and he leaves you alone. Forget being polite if you do not like someone do not respond to them!!
2006-07-14 06:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him NOT to contact you anymore! Stop being so polite or you are going to get yourself in trouble, Hon. I have a very strict rule. I do not give out my phone number to anyone online until I have talked to them over emails and IMs for a month at the very least. It is just good practice not to give out your number until you are very comfortable with someone. You need to cut off all contact with him! Don't respond to his emails or take his calls anymore.
2006-07-14 06:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by rebelwitch80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel uncomfortable then there is something wrong and u have every right to feel however u want.. ignore his email block them same with his instant messages, and don't answer the phone. try not answer anymore question to be polite or not that only leads him on and making it worse just cut off all contact..
2006-07-14 06:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by c_sev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being so polite. Or tell him you've found someone else to IM with and have no time for him if you feel that uncomfortable about the situation.
2006-07-14 06:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a different phone number and request that it be unlisted then block him from your account. If he continues to email you under a different ID delete your account. Something is not right with this guy.
2006-07-14 06:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He looks a sprint wacky and jealious! some one you do no longer choose to get entangled with after what ever very own agency you have going is performed get the hell remote from this guy. on an identical time as examining this known theory got here to my suggestions became into loopy life time action picture ... GL
2016-10-07 22:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you're leading this guy on. If you feel uncomfortable and you say nothing it's only gonna continue and possibly get worse. Screw being polite, this is about your safety and well-being.
2006-07-14 09:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by elr212006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so polite! IM him and tell him that you're not interested and want him to stop contacting you. Lie and say you got back with your ex...
In the future, don't give people you don't know so much info about yourself.
2006-07-14 06:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋