I really hate my stepdad!! I guess I'm jealous because my mom is always with him and not me!! Everyday as soon as he comes home from work it is all about him. What makes me even madder is that she knows I don't like him and she is still with him. She tells everyone yeah if she didn't like him I wouldn't be with him yet like I said she does know. He isn't mean to me or anything like that I guess I just want my mom and dad back together. My dad was put into prison for killing somebody and for doing drugs about 2 or 3 months ago. I am going into the peace corps as soon as I go into college so I can get away from here. I know that my mom is in love but it just seems like to me she would at least want to spend time with me afterall I'm not going to be living with her much longer. Another thing that really bothers me is that they are always having sex. To me that shows alot of disrespect to anyone else in the house they even did it on a family vacation. Please help me I want to kill myself.
2006-07-14 06:27:15 · 23 answers · asked by Kelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have the same proble but i try to deal with it cause as i look at it is my mom happy with him yeah that is really disrespect having sex and on the family vacation dont kill yourself dont worry things get better before thet gett worse and sorry to hear about your dad my dad is in prison two he has 7 more years
2006-07-14 06:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by babyanjels420 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is old enough to do what she want and what happened on the other side of the door is her business. You said "Your dad just went to prision a few months ago." How are you accepting this? If you are not accepting it very well then your mom should be helping you come to term with it. She should also spend some time with you because you are her son and still under her roof. You are lucky that he isn't mean to you. Most step parents do. I've been there and I too wanted to end my life but I wouldn't let him end my life. How much longer do you have before you finish High School? Get involved in some things to keep you occupied till that time. Make sure you do talk about your dad situation and not let it bottled up inside. That is if you're deeply hurt by his actions.
2006-07-14 06:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by Paula 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you need to get over your own issues with your dad. You need to understand that this is your mom’s life too. It is very unfair to hate your step-dad just because you want your parent’s back together. That is not your call. Can you really blame your mom for moving on? You don’t hate your step-dad, you are mad at your own father for what he did. Your mom and step-dad are adults and have an adult relationship. That includes sex. Your mother was a sexual being before you and now, after you. I admit it is weird, but it is not unacceptable. They should be having sex and enjoying each other. This is your problem, little one, not your mother’s. Also, don't say you want to kill yourself. That is not something to joke around with and you clearly are saying that because of the attention it will get you.
2006-07-14 06:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by rebelwitch80 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to understand that your mother is entitled to a life. The only reason you dont like him is because you feel he has taken your mom away. You should let your mom know that you would like more one on one time with her. Express yourself but dont put her in a positon to choose between you and a man who has done no wrong. Couples have sex, that is just the facts and if they are being too noisy you can bring that up to your mom as well. Killing yourself is the not the answer and solve nothing. Sit your mom down and tell her how you feel. Good luck
2006-07-14 06:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, hate is a strong word. If you hate someone, you are their slave. True, your Mom may be spending a lot of time with him, but she intends to be with him a long time and it's best to keep peace in the house. You will understand this when you get older. When you move out, they will be stuck looking at each other. Tell your Mom you want to spend some special time with her. Have you told her that?
2006-07-14 06:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Comeon dude don't you think your mom has the right to choose a better husband and a life partner for herself. Are you not getting selfish. Sorry, but you seem to be a self centered person. You don't have a reason to hate your step Dad but you do so. You don't have a reason to Love your original Dad but you do so. Your mom has got a life of herself and she has all the right to do justice to it. And yes ofcourse she is doing it right. Take your focus out of it. Give your life a new direction.
2006-07-14 06:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
cj is so right!!! I can understand that seeing your mom in a different way can feel really wierd. Ask your mom if one night a week you can have a girls night out. I'm thinking shopping or whatever even if its just getting groceries, stop and get something to eat or run errands. Having sex is not disrespectful unless they are in front of you. Turn up the radio and think of how all of us sometimes act like teenagers. Even old folks of like 42.
2006-07-14 06:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Laura B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, I'm gonna try to give it to you straight instead of sugar coating it.
your mother has her own life. just because it doesn't revolve around you is no reason to want to kill yourself.
my parents split up when I was 7, and it was just because my dad was a jerk. now they're back together, and I wish they weren't. I really don't like my dad that much.
seeing as you aren't going to be living with her much longer, tell her you want to spend more time with her. you have to let her know that you're feeling neglected, otherwise how can she do anything about it? take the initiative here, and be the bigger person. you'll feel better about it. trust me.
2006-07-14 06:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow you've really got urself a problem i to got myself a step dad and i feel absolutly unloved at times but if you want your mom to notice you do this for a very long time (she will get mad but you have to take it, she'll get the point) is do things without asking stay out later than usual bring boys home and let her and maybe ur dad catch u kissing on the couch dont let her in on who he is make her feel as if ur not part of her life any more. she will get the message do stuff like that
2006-07-14 06:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't hate anybody, and your mother has no consideration for you i can see, so while your stepdad is at work
you need to tell your mom exactly how you feel and tell her that all she thinks about is your stepdad like it is the end of the world like there are no more days in life, like life is over, tell her some problems may come up if you don't start giving you some attention, like you may lose your relationship with her or you may become mad all the time and tell her it is not impossible for that to happen
2006-07-14 06:38:30 · answer #10 · answered by colombia129 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋