My husband has cheated on me twice that i know of and we have managed to some how work it out for now because i love him, but i have nightmares all the time that he is cheating again and i just have a hard time trusting him with anything he says. is there a way to know if he is cheating or thinking about it with someone seriously, just by the way he acts?
2006-07-14 06:22:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should always go with your insticts!! If you think he is and if you pick up on the signs he is. If you need to validate your feelings check your phone bills, cellphone bills, emails, IM accounts. Find out who he is contacting & who is contacting him. Don't be afraid to contact addresses, numbers you don't know & ask them who they are & what type of relationship they have with your man!
Been there and I know how you are feeling. It took me 4 years to get back to where my mind was prior to his cheating.
2006-07-14 06:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes a change in demeanor.. a few things will happen he'll either out of the blue either start getting really withdrawn and moody (not talking about typical bad day , i mean on a regular bases) he'll start finding excuses to either leave the house or for you to leave the house alone.. or he'll start doing really nice out of character.. like if he hardly ever has gotten u flower during ur marriage then suddenly in a matter of a couple of weeks is bringing u flowers alot.. then more then likely he's feeling guilty about cheating.. again im not talking a day here or there im talking an increased pattern of the same thing..
2006-07-14 06:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you couldn't tell the first two times, how would you know if he is doing it a 3rd time? You won't, you decided to stay with him after two times so you need to try to begin to trust him again. If you can't trust him you really don't have much of a relationship and eventually it will end. I'm really not trying to hurt your feelings but you know in your heart what the right thing to do is, it may not be easy and it may hurt alot. I hope you work it out.
2006-07-14 06:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me say this...if after at least two affairs (that you're aware of) you don't know you're in for a long ride. Didn't you notice anything different about him? I firmly believe that you cannot be in love with two people at the same time. Unless he's schizophrenic (sp?).
So, if you caught him or he told you about two there's actually a lot more you don't know about. Affairs are like mold what you see on the surface is only a fraction of what's really going on.
2006-07-14 06:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
certain! do you want to carry close why? because it is no longer the 'suitable - more desirable than ever relationship' if for a second i became no longer sturdy sufficient her and he or she translated those emotions into lust for yet another guy. I need to carry close that which will workout consultation those rationalization why she cheated on me contained in the first position.
2016-11-06 09:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by beharry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my own experence a woman's intuition is 99.9% of the time right. I suggest you do some research on your man. He has done it 2 times already. He is the luckiest guy around to keep you, however you need trust to make this work without it, it will never happen.
2006-07-14 06:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure but i wanted to let u know your not alone my husband has cheated more than once. 11 years later were still i am still working on trust and dont know if it will ever come .i follow my heart and gut they say it will never let u down
good luck
2006-07-14 06:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by robin w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering the same thing about my husband, All i can tell u is if he does it again, at least you can say you tried, and don't let him make you feel like it's your falt. It's not, Men are just stupid and thats all i have to say about that.
2006-07-14 08:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if all of a sudden, he's not as affectionate as before. try being affectionate towards him... sometimes a cheating man would not return the affection because they feel guilty. notice if lately he has been working "overtime" or there are unusual unexpected "business trips"
2006-07-14 06:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, check and see if he has a penis. If he does, then he is cheating or thinking about it! (Hold the hate mail, I'm just kidding)
:)
2006-07-14 09:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋