Will it change in a year, 5 years, 20 years. Anyone have experience with this. All my 5 closest friends are going to different places, some near home, others relatively far away, and I'm going the furtherest, although still it's not too far (not like east coast to west coast). I realize that I'll make new friends at college, but will these high school relationships that are very strong now, last over time?
2006-07-14 06:17:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
everything changes when you get out of highschool. You dont hang out with your friends like you did when you were in highschool as much! With me we went our separate ways. But when we can get together its great. But we dont see eachother very much! I had a friend that went joined the army and another that joined the airforce...dont see them very often. Dont expect it to stay the same! Everything changes!
2006-07-14 06:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In my experience it does change. You aren't together sharing common experiences any more and everyone gets involved with their own daily lives. Some grow and some regress. Over the years I've had, and lost contact with, too many friends. Most were really just acquaintances, but the close friends from high school are the most lasting, even if you're apart for long periods of time. It is amazing how you can start up again almost as if it had only been a long weekend.
2006-07-14 07:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by Wascal Wabbit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It changes. I barely talk to any of my close friends from high school now and I just graduated college so it's only been 4 years. For the most part I talk to them once every couple months and that's it.
Then you have the opposite effect with some people and their group doesn't change at all and they still act like they're in high school. That usually happens with people who are at the same college and room together and all that.
2006-07-14 06:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but once you start college, you will probably end up meeting a ton of new friends. You will all be involved in different things and develop different interests. It is hard not to gradually grow appart. Plus you will be busy with classes, homework, work, clubs, etc. It will be harder to keep in touch with your old friends. It is so wierd when you don't see them on a daily basis. I only talk to one of my best friends from highschool on a regular basis and that is because she goes to the same college as me. Even then, we are not best friends like we used to be. Now it is more of a quick lunch date or running into each other on our way to a class.
It will be hard to meet up with your old friends too. A lot of schools have their spring and winter breaks at different times. Some of your friends may not even be able to go home in the summer if they end up taking summer classes, or working near their campus. It will be hard and sad at the same time. If you want them to stay strong, you all have to be committed to put in the extra effort.
2006-07-14 07:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by smm_8514 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My two daughters had the same anxiety when they left for college. But you know what, they are still friends with their close high school crowd and now they also have new friends and on vacations our house is full of their friends. Going away to school is tough but don't worry everybody in college is in the same boat their freshman year. Good luck to you.
2006-07-14 06:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That only depends on if you and your friend(s) are willing to mutually work at staying in touch. Everyone including you will be busy with your new friends and life, and keeping in touch with your old friends can be an after-thought. Even if you keep in touch, you find that unless there is still some commonality, you lose interest in what the other is doing. This is called life.
2006-07-14 06:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by MickMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In short...yes
In long...probably yes, but that is a good thing. The whole point of college is to experience new things. Just try and stay in touch with them on the phone or by email. The world is a pretty small place nowadays.
2006-07-14 10:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are it will change...I am still best friends with my 4 best friends from high school (graduated 10 years ago) but I can tell you that that is a RARE occurence. But it is possible, you just have to work at it...make a pact or something (might sound stupid, but hey...you gotta do what it takes)
2006-07-14 06:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything will change. However, it's up to you as to whether or not you remain close with your friends. With today's technology there is really no excuse. I graduated high school in 1989 and I still maintain my friendships with my 2 best friends. I call and email them regularly. Occsionally I will visit them if I'm in the area. So really it's up to you...
2006-07-14 06:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by Rance D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life, life will change.
Relations come and go. It depends on who you and your friend are if it endures or can handle 'not speaking' a few years.
I still have friends I see only every couple of years and its like seeing someone you last saw yesterday...except that you have lots more to talk about.
2006-07-14 06:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by Puppy Zwolle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 01:37:12 · answer #11 · answered by mcthay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋