we have never had a real reationship he goses to work while i stay at home but all my ex boyfriends told me that they loved me he used to tell me that he loved me all the time then he just quit when i ask him why he dosent tell me he just says i dont know why you need to hear it all the time and i dont but once a week would be nice but i hear it maybe every 6 months if that it really stresses me out and he knows how i feel so dose he just not love me anymore im pregnant now and i want someone to love and father my son and myself what should i do evey time we get in a fight i tell him im leaving but he tells me he dosent want me to go im lost please help
2006-07-14 06:05:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have been with my hubby for 11 years and we have been married for 3 years we have a 4 year old son and ia m 4 months pregnant...i havent passionately kissed my husband for around 6 years and the sex has dropped drastically...was 5 or 6 times a week...now it more like 1 time a week...i have found that being annoying works..climb on his lap and move around a little, wear really short skirts and ignore him, walk up and make him hug you and turn around really quick and rub your butt on it... also they get comfy in a relationship real quick so shake things up a little buy some new clothes cut your hair different , start wearing makeup..it will shake him up a little and he will try a whole hell of a lot harder act like you have no interest at all and make it a game ....good luck
2006-07-14 06:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by valerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question would be why dosent he tell you he loves you there is obviouly an under lying problem and that he has issues with showing his emotions and or love.Do you tell him you love him.You say you never were in a real relationship then why in gods earth did you get married.It sounds like if he was telling you before and recently stopped since finding out about the baby maybe he sis stressing about the baby and dosent know if he is up to the challenges of fatherhood and takes his anger and stress out on you.Maybe he thinks you conned him into getting pregnant.But whatever it is the problem needs to be resolved esspecially before the baby gets here you dont want to raise the baby in a loveless relationship.I hope everything works out for ya
2006-07-14 06:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having hormonal changes due to the pregnancy. This will continue to get worse. I always thought actions spoke a lot louder than words. Think why you are not with your ex-boyfriends. This may give you clues. Also he does love you but is having trouble expressing it. When you tell him you are going to leave and he doesn't want you to how much more proof do you need. If all women had this problem they would be very happy indeed.
2006-07-14 06:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You being pregnant is part of the quandry...
Your body is undergoing a lot of physical changes...Releasing hormones that are upsetting you at every which way. It is making you weep, cry with joy and all kinds of silly things, and have doubts, (through no fault of your own, its the hormones and you will have to put up with it, until you contact your doc and ask him to verify it).
Now, I feel for the poor hubby, because I have been there...
The wife almost goes nuts at times and needs lot of reassurance because she goes through a lot of changes and "gets fat", (which every woman loathes, because they think that they are not "pretty" for thier hubbys anymore, and we are not that way...we understand that if your pregnant you will be 'big' and it wont bother us).
DONT LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND because some former "boyfriends" tell you all the things you want to hear....
Your husband is doing the best he knows how! He is going out and making a living, and to him, thats "his part" of the process of having a family! (Yea I know, its after he "retires", is when "his" nuturing factor kicks in, and not usually before!)...
Your a 'stay at home' Mom, and you will be pressed to do things you wouldnt do normally...
Gather your family and friends around you... You will need the "emotional support" from them. Your husband will "try" to give it to you, as much as he knows how, but, we simply arent "wired" that way... So, dont expect a lot of sympathy from him on that department...
I know, I have been there and done that, with two kids of my own, and working all the over time I could to support the family and I missed out on a lot. Now, being retired, I recognise a lot of things...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-14 06:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pregnant, your emotions are running high. Don't stress yourself out now. You have a baby coming and that should be your focus now. After the baby comes and he doesn't show you any love then you might what to seek counseling or leave. If your husband is a good man, he might me going through something himself. Being a pregnant wife, makes expecting dads nervous. I just might need to sit down and talk things out and tell him exactly what you need.
2006-07-14 06:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by Brobe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy doesn't have to say I love you 100 times a day in order to truly love you. Actions speak louder then words. You sound way too young to be pregnant - I hope you mature soon so that you will be a good mother. Instead of worrying about your man, worry about growing up and getting what it takes to become a mother.
2006-07-14 06:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know I tellmy wife every day total days i still do it is 3,285 days and I tell her every morning and night that double and telling my kids that 2 of them that 1/2 of that. they are 3 and 2 smiling.
if he didn't care anymore and not say love you for last 6 months. oh my god, Dumb A** and I am sorry you need to leave him becasue he worth less crap... if he want to proved he does love you and want to anythng right just walk out now and if he begging you to stay with him.. don't it will happen every time.
I am telling you now and I would wait until he truly say that he love me and want to work it out... Let him be stresses out not you... not good for you and your baby for being stresses. and tell him I do love you and I not going to sit in the house all day wondering if you ehver love me.??? just leave and then Believe me he will be so sorry that what he treat you like htat.
I am a male and I don't do that kind of things like that it so wrong. My wife did told me that she going to leave me and I ask why she said I work too hard and you never tell me you love me anymore and I told her really? and one day she left ohmy god i change so hard in my life to make it better for my wife and we been so wonderful after 9 years and 2 kids and we working having other one...
You know what ex boyfriend says to you compare to husband. He will be sorry A** when you leave and wait until he begging so hard that killing him thenyou go back if not then divorce get child support. better that way.
2006-07-14 06:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage Counseling
2006-07-14 06:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by hateizmybestfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I understand you want and need to feel loved! About leaving yes if your that unhappy why should you stay with him, but keep in mind your pregnant that means your more emotional then usual and you will have sudden mood swings so before you pack your bags make sure those arent pregn. hormons talking. Good luck and congrats on the pregn.
2006-07-14 06:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by connys1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay he doesn't say it as much as you would like...but does he SHOW you that he loves you? Showing is sooo more important than saying. STOP comparing him to ex boyfriends..thats not fair to him. Don't end a marriage because you dont hear the words you feel you should.
2006-07-14 06:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋