What would you do if you if you or you girlfriend(men and lez) was pregnant as a result of rape?

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I would keep the baby.Most people say that pregnacy after rape will cause more grief and it is best to get an abortion. They say that looking At the kid will only be a constant reminder. I disagree. I think abortion will add more grief and maybe other psycological problems to the already standing situation. Most women that had the baby I read had no negative thoughts ever about the child and love that child for however long after the birth. I think a birth would be the best answer because you would ultimately be like a rainbow after the storm, joy after the pain, and sunshine after the rain. I think having the child would be bringing a gift from god after a horrible situation. Plus at least you can take another turn afterwards. Abortion is permanent. You can never turn back afterwards. At least there is still adoption if the birth is a problem.
I mean no offense to people who have or are struggling through this but as you do,I have a right to my opinions, even if they offend u.

Kathleen DeZeeuw, whose son Patrick was conceived in rape when she was 16, writes: "I, having lived through rape, and also having raised a child 'conceived in rape' feel personally assaulted and insulted every time I hear that abortion should be legal because of rape and incest. I feel that we're being used by pro-abortionists to further the abortion issue though we've not been asked to tell our side of the story."

The case against abortion for incest pregnancies is even stronger. Studies show that incest victims rarely ever voluntarily agree to abortion. Instead of viewing the pregnancy as unwanted, the incest victim is more likely to see the pregnancy as a way out of the incestuous relationship because the birth of her child will expose the sexual activity.

For example, Edith Young, a 12-year-old victim of incest, writes twenty-five years after the abortion of her child: "The abortion which was to 'be in my best interest' just has not been. As far as I can tell, it only 'saved their (my parents') reputations, solved their problems' and allowed their lives to go merrily on."

Answer 1

I found myself in this situation back when I was a teenager in high school. Deciding I wasn't mentally, emotionally, financially, or in any other way ready to raise a child, I ended up giving the baby away for an open adoption to a lovely couple who were unable to conceive on their own. I am proud that the child conceived out of rape has grown up happily, healthily, and was given the chance for life.

However, I believe it depends on the person. I believe that abortion can sometimes be the compassionate choice rather than having a child who will go through hell because they weren't wanted, weren't planned for, and aren't going to be taken care of. And with this world filled with so many children who already don't have homes, I think it's a difficult choice to make.

Answer 2

I don't feel that abortion is ever the right answer. If you don't want the child, no matter the situation in which conception occured, give it up for adoption. There are so many couples out there that would love to have a baby, no matter how it came about.

Dealing with rape is a horrible thing, and can have lasting consequences for the victim. Getting pregnant from this unlawful, unwanted, and horrible experience can seem like the end of the world. I can understand the feelings that may be associated with this, and can understand why a women would want an abortion after something like this has happened to them. At the time, they can't think clearly, even enough to understand themselves and their feelings, let alone deal with pregnancy. Sometimes a decision is made in haste to remedy the situation. Later on down the road, they are usually very regretful and have a harder time dealing the act of the rape itself after an abortion.

Although, there are women who have the baby, decide to keep it and then have a problem looking at or caring for the baby because all they can see when they look at the baby is the act that brought them into the world. I can't even begin to imagine the feelings associated with this.

I agree with your statement about incest abortion. Most parents would want to sweep it under the rug and not confront the bigger issue of incest. Same with rape. They want life back to normal, and have a pregnant teenager isn't normal, so hence, they will talk that child into abortion. I think this is very wrong. The mother, no matter what her age is, has a right to say what she things and feels and should get the option of either having the baby, or abortion. It should be her decision, not someone elses.

Answer 3

Now,I last night I responded to something very similar to this.My friend standing at a bus stop comming home from work was rape,dragged in an alley with a knife to her throat.She was hurt and confused becuz she did'nt want to get a abortion because she said the baby had nothing to with it,but she did'nt want to have becuz of the way the baby was concieved.She ended up getting a abortion but she said the was the hardest thing she ever had to.I respect people and they're choice.If I was raped I would'nt keep it that's just being honest.And the lady your talkin about Edith Young that's her opinion,she feels it was in her parent's best interest to get a abortion.I think it's a possibility they had her in they're best interest at the time since she was only 12 years old.I feel like who in they're right mind would want to have a child that was concieved by a family member,now that's crazy to me and that's my opinion.I do understand what you are saying don't get me wrong,but I also go as far to believe that when a female get raped the abortion should be free.Some people just can't have a baby after being raped and put the baby up for adoption,I even asked my friend about doing that and she replied Toni I don't want to have a baby and then give it.He or she might try and look for me one day.And that made sense to me.She said she might have other children by then and she did'nt want her child to ask her why did'nt you keep me,just because you was raped that wasn't my fault and then she would have to go through the ordeal all over again mentally.She's fine now and she does have a little boy,but we don't never talk about.It's a closed chapter to her as far as I am concerned.Now if she thinks about or talk about with her husband I don't know,but I doubt it.She told him when they first got to gether and I think that was the end of that.I live in Va. and a young girl was raped by her mom's bf the mother made her have the baby and the girl is now16 she was 14 when this happened,she said her mother might as well put a gun to her head and pull the trigger.She don't feel nothing for this child.It was a big thing on the news down here about 2 yrs ago.I think a family member end up taking the baby from her.I don't know what ever became of it.So different people feel different about this.

Answer 4

You are right. Every child comes on this world for a reason and I am absolutely against abortion even if child is sick. If you really don't want child adoption is possible. But baby is never guilty for anything, neither for rape or unprotected sex.

Answer 5

No I would never have a baby with anyone but my husband and nowadays if you are raped you can go and get the morning after pill so this doesnt happen. Even if you are a victim, you still have responsibility to your body, a possible child and the law to report it.

Abortion is necessary in our day in age, sorry but havent you noticed the population problems we have? A child has as much right to a supportive and loving enviornment with TWO parents that equally love the baby. If that cannot be provided, then sometimes it can be the right answer.

Answer 6

u r absolutely right..

that child has the right to come into this world afterall its no fault of the child... also abortion is not a good thing to do.. its taking the life of a human.. not any human but a human that is part of u physically emotionally & mentally..

yes in ur dark times that child will be ur shining star.

Answer 7

I like how you gave rel experiences about the matter from both points of view, but I cant say what I would do unless I go through it myself

Answer 8

There's no right or wrong in this kind of situation. It's a difficult choice, and one for the woman to make.

Answer 9

i didnt read that whole thing...but imo if someone is truly forcibly raped its the only time that abortion is justified. the keyword being "truly"...just because you decided you didnt like it after you had sex or you led someone between ur legs then decided to try to stop it dont count...

Answer 10

I would keep the baby because no matter what the baby is still yours. You'll be killing apart of yourself if you kill the baby.