Is it worth speaking out for yourself if it's going to cause arguments?

Answer 1

If you feel strongly enough about it, yes you should as people will just treat you as a doormat. It depends on the situation, if it is something small then it is not worth the argument and you don't want to get a reputation for always arguing! However, it doesn't have to end up in an argument. It takes two to argue and if you don't keep the argument going then it won't develop. Just say your piece, then say you don't want to argue about it, that it is your opinion. It is worth looking at it from the other person's point of view too. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

If I had answered this question a couple of years ago, I would responded with an easy "hell yes." Now that I've been in a happy marriage for several years, I'm thinking it's not so simple. The best I've come up with is to step back from yourself and ask what a respectable and good person would do in the same situation. I find that it helps me look at the issue from a different angle. There's a time to stand up for yourself, but there's also many occasions when it's just your ego talking and the decent thing to do is get over it and get along. If the decent and respectable thing to do is speak out, then you're hurting yourself and the relationship to remain silent. By the way, it's takes two people to have an argument. You can say whatever you need to say without hostility. If your partner becomes argumentative, you are not required to follow suit.

Answer 3

It is worth choosing your battles carefully. But once chosen, it is worth fighting them. People will take as much as you let them.

Also, if you don't speak out, you may be bottling something up for the mother of all arguments some time in the future when you can't stand it any more. That might be more destructive than all the little ones you might have instead.

Answer 4

Yeah you should always speak up for yourslef NO MATTER WHAT. If you dont, youll be left being a pushover, youll not be the real you and even the people closest to you wont know the true you but most importantly you wont get your veiws heard, you have some pretty complex and worth while points of veiw and if people disagree with you than thats thier problem. Even if its to me or someone else in our group do it M***n to get the respect you deserve.

Answer 5

There is a nice way of stating your case and a way which will get you involved in the mother of all arguments. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but be considerate of other peoples feelings and bear in mind that they might not agree with you. Know when to cut your loses and keep your mouth shut, don't get drawn into a major argument. State your case make it clear that it's your opinion and end it there.

Good luck!!

Answer 6

if the argument is gonna turn violent and your going to be the one black and blue it's probably better to keep your mouth shut.....sometimes speaking out is another way of saying..... start an argument this isn't being assertive its being argumentative which is negative not positive and will cause more problems than it solves...if you feel its important go off somewhere quiet write down the problems and let them read it when it isn't going to cause a fight

Answer 7

Yes it is; dont let other people put words in your mouth- speak for yourself. You are as entitled to your opinions and and feelings as they are. You may say one thing, they say another.....that doesnt mean its you who are wrong all the time. If you dont stand up for yourself, you will be controlled and manipulated by others who dont always have your best interests at heart, but who may want to manipulate you for their own satisfaction or purpose. Stand up for your rights as a person; if they want to argue, let them get on with it, but make sure you have your say>> V ery good luck to you.

Answer 8

Yes, because you are expressing yourself, and your opinion counts, If the other person has a problem dealing with it, that's on therm, why should you walk around holding in something that is causing you pain? dump it, let them deal with it, at least it will free you!!

Answer 9

i didn't speak out, but found that people were walking all over me, one day i just snapped stand up for yourself u will feel better.

Answer 10

yes, if you don't speak out, you're not being true to you. And if you're not being true to you then you're lieing to yourself and others. Then soon no-one will listen to you, not even yourself. If they don't like what it is your saying, just simply say "your emotions, you deal with em".