and that ive been seeing my mums friend for over a year????(the friend is a girl btw!!!)
2006-07-14 05:58:56 · 46 answers · asked by Sarah I 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You've been seeing your mom's friend?!?! Whether bi-sexual, gay or straight THAT IS WRONG!
2006-07-14 06:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, if you feel the need to tell your parents that you are bisexual, then do just that. Do not put them on the spot though. Sit them down.... just the 3 of ya'll. Start off with you have something to tell them, that it is important to you that they know and understand. Ask them to listen with an open mind. Then just say it, tell them.
As far as your mom's friend.... well my opinion on that is it was wrong to begin with, be it a girl or guy, it was your mom's friend. Now think about this part really hard, you can really hurt alot of people if you do tell your mom this part of your secret! Your mom will feel betrayed by you and her friend! And she will have the right to feel that way! Your mom and her friend will probably no longer be friends, and it will strain the relationships surrounding the whole thing.
So if you want your parents to know you are Bi... then tell them. Leave your mom's friend out of it. Also you should stop seeing your mom's friend it will hurt to many people. Find a new girl instead. Then bring that one home after you tell your parents.
2006-07-14 06:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not so much that you have to tell your parents that you are bi, but you do have to tell your mum that you are seeing her friend because the cat is eventually going to be let out the bag and imagine how she will feel if she discovers it and you had not told her. There is no easy way of doing it. I would suggest that you and your mum's friend tell her together then you can support each other if she goes mad. Face it, she isn't going to be happy about it, but, hey, you never know, she might have guessed already or be ok about it and be thankful that you had the guts to tell her. Good luck!
2006-07-14 06:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure it depends what your parents are like... Care to add details on this.
Ie are they hippy types and all open minded... or like my sick and twisted dangerous stalker on this site here who recons all who work for family planning clinics are a danger to kids?
Er how old is mums 'friend' as that may cause problems with their friendship as she may think said friend currupted 'sweet and innocent you'?
If I was parents I would be cool...
Daughter has doubled her pulling chances, gets to try new experiences and hopefully we would still have grand kids.
But then Im open minded and jjudge people on how nice they are... not some pre ordered notion of whats normal.
And attack anyone who does not fill that mold
2006-07-14 06:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you are VERY confused. You aren't sure what you want so your going to screw anyone who walks through your door until you figure it out. That somewhere along the way they screwed up. They somehow didn't teach you that sex should be in the confines of a committed relationship with ONE person whom you love.
Talk to your girlfriend/f^ck pal before telling your Mum that her "friend" has been doing her daughter.
2006-07-14 06:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by i_am_the_dida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself am very open with my parents, and i've found that if I just tell them things, they dont really mind. I made the decision to be bisexual, and my parents were fine with it. If they find out, and it's not from you, they might be upset you didnt tell them. In short, you're allowed to make your own decisions, and your parents should back you up 100%. If they don't, that's thier problem. Be your own person.
2006-07-14 06:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are seeing her for over year then i hardly say you are bisexual. you are in a relationship. if you love this girl then you should tell ur mom bc she will accept you. BUT if this is just a 'phase' you are going through like college girls then keep it on the hush hush.
2006-07-14 06:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by chickfilet7786 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to tell them, then you just have a sit down with them and say "there is something very important that I need to discuss with you. It is something that you might have trouble dealing with initially, but it is something that is a part of me." and then spill the beans.....you know, if they have no clue that this is your preference, they will be truly shocked so be prepared.
2006-07-14 06:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by ~•over the moon•~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that big of a deal! its your life and your parents may try to change it but its your life not theres. which ever parent you are closer to go out somewhere with them in public and just talk to them and be like what if i was bi-sexual? ask what they would do? ask what they would say? but if at all they ask you if you are, just tell them you dont know! dont make it obvious and if they say they will make a bigger deal out of it than it really is dont tell them, but if they dont then tell them!
2006-07-14 06:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by nikejustdoit88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a good relationship be honest with them.they may be shocked at first mabt even distant,but they will come around.most all parents just want to see their kids happy.if you live a lie your not happy.but if they find out from someone else it will be devastating to them.
2006-07-14 06:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by sassy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to ? Are you over 18 ?
Why would your parents ask about your sexual orientation anyway ? If they ask, then tell them.
You're not hiding it. You're not flaunting it, either.
2006-07-14 06:02:33 · answer #11 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋