i had a bf who worked overseas.we were together for a month then he left for work for 2yrs.during that time,i met a new male friend.he also had a gf at that time.but we enjoyed each other's company.we r on the same wavelength.when my bf came home,we got married.it's been 4yrs now.my friend's still single & unintentionally,we started bonding together recently.we'd eat out,watch concerts or just hang out.time flies when we r together.i'd call the relationship platonic.he awakened me to what my marriage was not.& i'm beginning to question it.i have no deep relationship w/ my husband.4yrs & it hasn't been consummated.is it worth saving?i strongly feel that it should have been my & my friend.i just didn't see it before.friends r starting to notice us but since he has this high regards for me,my husband & my family,he won't cause trouble.now he has chosen to stay away.but i feel that we r depriving ourselves of our destiny.how do i make him realize that w/o scaring him away?
2006-07-14 05:55:09 · 9 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL@ unintentionally, how do you 'unintentionally' go to dinner with someone or go to a concert or hang out, let alone do ALL of them???? get a grip, the first thing you have to do is be truthful, none of it was unintentional. you shouldn't have married your husband in the first place if you had feelings for someone else, you had no right to tear up his life like that. first you get divorced and let your husband find someone who really loves him, THEN you try to work things out with your 'soulmate'. you can't have your cake and eat it too and thats what you are trying to do, your husband deserves better than that. at least have the integrity to get out. yes you are taking a chance that once you are actually free to be with him the other guy won't want to be bothered, but hey thats the chance you take and its your problem, then your learn a 'soulmate' lesson won't you? you got yourself in to this mess and you are being selfish and ignorant about the whole thing, remember though what comes around goes around. karma is a b*tch!
2006-07-14 06:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
convinced I surely have. yet Its no longer determining in any respect in the present day yet its only a ruff time we are dealing with. We nevertheless recognize we adore one yet another no count what. And nd you'll in simple terms recognize once you've meet your soul mate warning signs u meet him: a million. You wanna be round him each and every of the time 2.He makes u experience how you won't be able to in any respect experience with all people els 3.you'll supply up something for even your own stay 4.And even as he's prepared to offer up something for you there is one of those number of extra yet thats some i'm hoping evrything seems excellent.
2016-10-14 11:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you've been married for 4 years and haven't consumated your marriage?
You need to question if you love your husband. If you don't, then get out ... not because of your friend, but because it's not fair to yoru or your husband to remain in a marriage where there's no love.
2006-07-14 06:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by cutengraceless 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BABY YOU NEED TO DE-COMMITT AND THEN RE-COMMITT
and in 4 years you guys have not consumated then i am sure u'r husband is a seaver diabetic..or is gay or has another female friend..because this makes no sense at all. you need to get out of it as soon as possible and start a new before this other guy walks off thinking of you as a coward
2006-07-14 06:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by really_confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically it goes to the song by Erykah Badu, you'll have to see him next lifetime. Things happen for a reason. Good luck.
2006-07-14 05:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not consummated after 4 years? wow. Is there some reason for that?
2006-07-14 06:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by linetap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce before fooling around! Married four years no sex? well get an annulment
2006-07-14 05:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by wancarol 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no emotional connection,no sex,why are you still there?even if you didnt hook up with your friend,you need a relationship thats emotionally and physically satisfying.you only live once.
2006-07-14 06:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by sassy1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me tell ya, i thought that i too had found my soulmate , and i married him. the grass is always greener on the other side. your friend is full of ****. i bet if you divorce, he wouldnt give two shits about you. men are attracted to what they appear not to have.
2006-07-14 10:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by lovely 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋