when he leaves his job. where together on weekends. but i still am scared. his this normal for me . how can i trust him?
2006-07-14 05:42:26 · 12 answers · asked by robin w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah sure its normal, but is it healthy to have this fear eating away at you? One way to look at it is that hes has cheated before and you survived it so could you survive and move on if he cheated again? have faith in your abilty to cope with what life throws at you, it may be that life has thrown you and your husband a second chance at happiness or maybe he will cheat and life will throw you another chance to prove what a survivor you are. It sounds like your husband is trying to win your trust back which is good on his part.
2006-07-14 05:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by burrowthroughanelephant 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a major breach of trust, especially with in a marriage, making it even worse is the fact it's not isolated to one time. It will take a long time before trust can be earned back, just give it time (unfortunately it may never return) Good luck
2006-07-14 05:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by Bassetlover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that trust has to be earned and is not freely given away, but its been 4 years and you still don't trust him. My goodness, if he hasn't regained your trust by now, he doesn't stand a chance.
You need to decide whether or not you can forgive the whole situation and move on. If not, give the guy his walking papers so he can try to find someone who is willing to give him another chance.
2006-07-14 06:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is earned it is just not freely given. He has given you reason to not trust him. He needs to be able to give you reasons to trust him. You need to make a decision and live with it. Either forgive him and move on or leave. You can not keep going through your life with misery. Yes this will cause distrust and fear. It also causes STD.
2006-07-14 05:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should inform him. yet first, truthfully look at getting some help, that's necessary that you hit upon out what inspired you to have an affair in the first position. in case you've been in a position to fall into the seize of searching for an affair then what's to stop you the subsequent time issues on your marriage are not likely besides as you want? Get help by ability of a few counselling. once you tell your husband it will be good to have an section that you'll be able to draw on for help. in case you do not tell him, you'd be mendacity to him by ability of omission, on a daily basis for some thing of your lives jointly, for each day that your little ones stay. there is no reason to construct a wedding ceremony if it is going to be outfitted on lies. once you tell him, be prepared for what is going to come. You owe it on your husband, your little ones and your self. in case you want him, go with what the utmost good should be. also, seeing as it is a few 28 year old that were given picked up at a bar... what winner's those people should be... you should get your self appeared at with the help of a well being care service. This guy would have countless ailments, and likely ones he would not even educate warning signs for yet. yet he ought to've pasted all of them to you... if he replaced into keen to help spoil somebody else's marriage, it would not sound like monogamy is enormous on his record of priorities. i'd be in touch as to who else he replaced into drowsing with and what they'd, that he would have given to you. in case you want your husband now as a lot as you declare, you owe it to him to in common words be particular you do not spread some thing to him. maximum acceptable desires on your destiny. do not enable this ensue back.
2016-11-02 01:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by mcthay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk about it w/ your husband and strongly consider a good marriage counselor. It's not a sign of weakness to get important matters like this dealt with. It takes more strength to admit a problem and deal with it. Good luck.
2006-07-14 05:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Falcon Boy Toy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal for you to feel this way. He has to earn his trust back and that can be hard. Put this in God's hands and leave it alone.Please have faith that you can get his trust back.
2006-07-14 05:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by sherell212004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal.......he betrayed your trust on more than one occasion...it's hard to trust a liar. Good luck with that.
2006-07-14 05:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be scared, he cheat before and he will cheat again because you let him get away with it , you keep taking him back , so why wont he continue to cheat ,, you should feel the way you do
2006-07-14 05:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's trying and you should too i hope the best for you when i went through it the guy didn't try the girl still came as she wanted and i didn't continue with the relationship but if he's trying give him a chance
2006-07-14 05:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋