I am going through a really hard time right now and I thought I had finally found someone that I actually connected with. All of the sudden he doesn't want to talk to me any more. He said it was because he was having feelings for me. He said that he wanted to end it now so he didn't get hurt.
Should I respect him and leave him alone or follow my heart and not let him get away?
2006-07-14 05:39:57 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His answer sounds like b.s. to me. If he were mature he'd pursue you if he was truly interested. I'm wondering how old he is and how his previous relationships went - what his goals are - does he want to settle down with one person or date around. Hard to tell since you didn't give many details. I don't think it makes sense to spend time on an individual that isn't giving back to you though.
2006-07-14 05:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that life is full of pain. If he is worried about getting hurt, then he will never live. Try to find out what he's really thinking.
Then if he doesn't accept it, you'll have to let him go because you can't make him love you; however, don't lose sight of him and close yourself off to the future possibilty of a relationship.
Love doesn't always show up exactly at the same time for people. He's at a different point in his life than you are. Keep yourself open but don't wait around for him. Just be yourself and try to be happy with your life.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-14 11:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people need some space. Other times they have moved on with another relationship and do not want to hurt the other party. I would give him no more than one week. At the end of that week make an appointment with your local minister or the minster that married you. Maybe he can help you work it out. If the man will not accept this and go with you, throw him to the curb and keep on going. There are better fish in the sea that don´t stink.
2006-07-14 05:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by thebulktiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are not property! Why would you feel like you have any authority over another human being? Let him do what he wants to do and in the end he will respect you for that. Most likely come crawling back after what he has going with the other girl he's talking to go array.
2006-07-14 05:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation, do you love him and think he is worth it? Is this a person you would like to be part of your life and future? How long have you been together?? Talk to him, ask what are his fears? IS something wrong in the relationship, do he love you? Tell him how you fell. If he responds or what evere he ansewrs and you can deal with that and maybe change something, maybe it could work. Go on.. you have nothing to loose. Good luck.
2006-07-14 07:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by kpax 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel, tell him u never want to hurt him! but, u must also be willing to just let it go too! it's hard to do, but if it's still his wish then just move on. you deserve to b with someone that will b there for u through everything, and if he's not wanting to b there because he "might' get hurt, how's he gonna b there when something does happen...bcause, things happen in relationships! can't b avoided!!! it's just a part of life, and we have to take the good with the bad!!!!!
2006-07-14 05:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be perfectly honest, if he is having feelings for you...why would he want to walk away? It doesn't make too much sense to me...even if he has a fear of getting hurt, you don't walk away from someone who you have feelings for because you can go through life without really getting to know anyone that way...I'd let him walk because I think there is something more he isn't revealing
2006-07-14 05:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by Maestro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to say, could very easily be one of those games guys play meaning ok i'm done with you but i'll say something that sounds nice, or he could be testing you either way he has some serious issues and i would let it go before it goes any further, he has issues now, imagine what it will be like later. don't be the stupid woman sucker we all tend to be and think you can fix him! i did that and two years later my life is completely miserable and i wish i had let him go when i was at the fork in the road you are at right now.
2006-07-14 05:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not reliable. Maybe he's not ready for a relationship.
Either way, he can't be depended upon at this point in his life.
Don't let yourself get hurt. Just walk away...and find someone who really wants to celebrate having feelings for you instead of being scared of it.
2006-07-14 05:43:44 · answer #9 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just walk away and go he said that want to end it now and not want to get hurt cool you are free woman!!! go go.... if he got hurt or try kill himself or something tell him you told me want to end it now and you didn't want to get hurt and now you doing it. I am not going though this crap.
Just go and If you want to stay with him then that would be the biggest mistake ever becasue if you find somone even better than him an dthen you can't break up because you are with him smile.
2006-07-14 06:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋