2006-07-14 05:26:22 · 22 answers · asked by petes2084 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
give him a big warm hug
2006-07-14 05:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't tremble and get on the verge of crying unless there is something going on in their lives that are frightening them, upsetting them, making them extremely happy, or causing depression. You need to know why he is acting like this to provide the best support possible. Assuming that you know the reason he is like this, and the reason is he is upset or sad or depressed, then you need to offer your help by being quiet around him, but still offer your support by asking him if he wants to talk about it. If he does, then you need to do more listening than talking. If he doesn't then you need to give him his space and let him get over it.
If you don't know the reason and he doesn't tell you the reason, and it seems like he is depressed about something, then you must consider that he is going through some type of depression that may need medical attention. Just watch him. Don't let him get into alcohol or Drugs to help him sleep or "cheer him up". If he wants to lay in bed and has no motivation then you need to tell him that you want to take him to the dr. so he can get prescribed meds that will help him through his depression. Whatever you do, don't harass him or get irritated at him because it may be some type of chemical imbalance that he can't control, and it can only be controlled by a Dr. Good Luck
2006-07-14 12:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize it maybe unusual for your husband to cry and, therefore, it's upsetting when it happens, but men are not made of glass and he'll live--i.e., don't overreact. It's not the end of the world. The real question is what happens next. On such rare occasions, I find that I prefer to take some time to compose myself before talking about what's bothering me. Don't be offended if he tries to distract himself for a time. Just flash that look that says, "ready to talk when you are" and let him go about his business. The changing roles of men and women haven't done much to change the fact that most men (of course, not all) feel rather undignified when they cry. He may need a moment to before he can have a productive conversation with you.
That said, depression is another matter. If his behavior is out of any context (a rational explanation for what might be upsetting him), or he appears to be unable to exercise any control over his behavior (he can't pull it together, for example, to go to work), then a visit to your family physician may be in order. There's lots of information on depression to help you figure this out. I've provided one site below from the Nat. Int. of Health. I suggest avoiding websites from drug companies that have a financial interest in selling antidepressants.
2006-07-14 12:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unable to comfort him, or find a reason for his sadness, call his physician and insist on an appointment for depression. His physician will likely take information and refer him to a psychologist for assessment, and then follow up with an antidepressant - unless hospitalization is needed.
Do not delay. Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain and it truly makes a person suffer for no reason.
2006-07-14 12:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband, a great big, strong Army Officer...yes they cry too... cried his heart out a few days ago. He bottles things up terribly and then it all comes out in a rush. I wrap my arms very tightly around him and tell him that it's all going to be alright, which lets face it, is what men do to us when we are weeping.
2006-07-14 17:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hug him and tell him to let it out. For a man to do that is equal to a woman screaming for help at the top of her lungs. Support him.
2006-07-14 12:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is right. He needs to feel like he can share his feelings if he needs to (and obviously does). But it seems that maybe he is holding back for some reason. You are his wife, so why would that be? Let him know that you are there for him but don't push the issue. If there is one thing I know about men it is that they don't like to be backed into a corner. Good luck.
2006-07-14 12:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by scorpilo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Console him, tell him you love him and that you are there for him. Be the strong one and let him tell you whats going on. Don't pressure him. Hug him and let him know that everything is going to be okay.
2006-07-14 12:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to him as his wife~best friend and help him through whatever it is causing him so much pain! Hope all is well! Good Luck!
2006-07-14 12:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
encourage him to let it out.try to help him through it.holding it in is dangerous to mental stability.rember it is a human emotion,put yourself in his shoes and show him the same kind of love and compassion you would want.
2006-07-14 12:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by sassy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him cry. It'll release some stress that he has built up.
2006-07-14 12:31:19 · answer #11 · answered by jhornneon23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋