I saw a 360 page that was a bit disturbing, it was a couple that had been together for over 10 years that seemed happy, yet they were swingers. I was dsturbed because I wondered if that goes against the basic princlples of marriage, yet they are still together. Is that what it takes to have a successful and long relationship, an open sexual lifestyle???
2006-07-14 05:19:52 · 11 answers · asked by justme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hell no!
It is against the principles of marriage, but just like some people decide they are gay, some couples decide they want to be swingers. I don't like it, and I would never encourage or do with my husband like that.
2006-07-14 05:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We're swingers and let us tell you what it's like from our points of view.....
Does swinging make us happy? Yes, we enjoy it.
Do we NEED swinging to make us happy? NO, we would be completely happy with each other if we decided to stop tomorrow.
Swingers are USUALLY people who are very secure and trusting in their relationships. It take a huge amount of trust and confidence in yourself and the one you love to do something like this.
Swinging is not just a bunch of horney people having sex with everyone and anyone. There are some great friendships that are developed in the lifestyle and being around other intelligent, beautiful and open minded people really is a wonderful thing...then you get to have sex with them...even better!!! LOL
But to answer your question one last time, you do not NEED to be a swinger to have a successful marriage, but you need to have a successful marriage to be a swinger.
2006-07-14 15:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer is no. No one "needs" to include other sexual partners, but some do in order to fulfill a fantasy. Some dabble in the swinging lifestyle and get out, and for others it continues. I have heard that if the relationship is on shaky ground that it will crumble even further, but if the relationship is solid, it may still survive. If swinging is discussed in detail before it happens, then you can set ground rules beforehand so there are no misunderstandings. If one of the partners is not 100% comitted to doing it, I don't think it will work out. Some try it and say that it takes away the urge to cheat since you can just openly express your desire to have sex with someone else without hurting the other partner's feelings. It takes two strongly comitted people to admit that they find others sexually attractive and then to act upon it. For some it can remain a fantasy, and for those who act it out it can be a little spice to their relationship.
If you are feeling pressured to swing and you aren't comfortable, then just don't do it. It also depends on the type of swinging, too. Some women want to experience being with another woman, so they like the idea of including their male partner in case they aren't so into it after all, and then they can just watch the other two enjoy themselves. If you aren't ready, then you aren't ready, and there is nothing wrong with you. If it becomes an issue, then get out of the relationship.
2006-07-14 14:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by jsusna72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No NO and No. That life style is dangerous. If two people love each other they will not have to sleep with others to be able to stay withing the relationship. I think swingers are sick people that should get therapy, not encouragement.
2006-07-14 12:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i certainly hope not cause im not with that at all....if u want to be a swinger why get married? i thought marriage was about finding the person u want to spend the rest of ur life with and being exclusively devoted to that person. i think nowadays people have a distorted view of marriage and relationships.
2006-07-14 12:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by MsNic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some of us, it is a wonderful way to enhance intimacy. For others, it is a straight road to divorce. Both partners must be totally secure in their relationship, and it must be a mutual decision. As far as our sex-life goes, it's probably the best thing we've ever done for each other. We're closer and more in love than we've ever been.
2006-07-14 12:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Legs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in that..........I don't think its the key to having a successful and long relationship, rather I think it takes two people that have unconditional love and morals to make a marriage work.
2006-07-14 13:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't thinkl the thats what it take but am seen at lot of people been swinging and they seem very happy and they say the love life is great
2006-07-14 12:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it works for some people
2006-07-14 12:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all in the mind, hon!
Different strokes for different folks!
I'd kill if I ever had to share and my wife would do the same if she had to share me!
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2006-07-14 12:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by Starreply 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋