How can you see your children without going through the courts and being arressted for harrassment?

Question

Divorce is very destructive there is a no win situation for both sides and the children suffer the most especially when the parents go back and forth from the courts.
I have indirect contact but no contact address. The police have already warned me that if I contact her, friends or relatives, that is classed as harrassment and it can go through the courts, if my ex wife presses charges. I have no contact address for my ex wife at present.
Neither party is free from guilt in trying to hurt one another for the pain the separation & divorce has caused.
Ideal situation is for my ex wife and I to be able to communicate without solicitors or any third parties involved, and be practical and reasonable in our expectations of one another above all forgiving for past hurt.

Answer 1

You need to keep your cool. I know how hard it must be to feel as if you are at someone else's whim but doing your nut won't make it happen. Is there any way you could re-build your relationship with the other partner (in a friends way obviously). Other than that, it's the Courts I'm afraid. But bear in mind that if you have been over emotional and got arrested for harrassment it will not go down well in Court.

Answer 2

You have rights regardless. It makes no sense that if you wanted to see you children that the person who has them would have you arrested unless they thought you were there for another reason. To be on the safe side I know you don't want to but I'd have to say go put a petion in at the courthouse. That is the best and legal way without you having the fear being arrested. Unless of course you could work out a visitation with the person who has your children for the moment. Otherwise court is your best option. Good Luck!!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

whether you are paying child support or not, you have every right to see your child. My husband and I are going through the same thing with my step daughter ( he is paying child support). The divorce was through the state of Kansas and they have a form called " right to enforce visitation", you will fill out the form and they give you a court date and the custodial parent has to explain to the judge why he/she has denied visitation for however long they have been denying it to you. If you have your parenting plan set forth sometimes the police will even help enforce it. You take the parenting plan with you to the police station and tell them that the custodial parent is not allowing you to see your child and they should escort you to the custodial parents house and enforce this parenting plan. Most states want to keep these types of disagreements out of the courts if at all possible.
Another thing you can do is talk to DFS and have them do a " well child visit" to make sure that the child is safe and well taken care of. Best of luck!

Answer 5

Well, talk to your partner if you can

Hi squirell,
thanks for your answer on my divorce question. Could not reply through your profile. Hope you get this -I had already answered your question (see above).
Interesting that we both suggest to the other one that talking to the partner is the best approach...
In our case, I agree with you that we have achieved 20 years, which is great. Now, how about we both are aware of the things missing in our partnership (just to name a few: very difficult to talk, hardly any sex -this is for the last 19 years, hum, true). Would you still advise to carry on rowing, or why not just row on two boats that both concentrate on the kids??.

Answer 6

Don't listen to that kidnap answer. Go through the courts to get it done the right way. Because your kids don't need to see you getting arrested. Or you can try to talk to their mother about reasonable visitations.

Answer 7

Why don't you want to go through the courts? Why would you be arrested for harrassment?

Answer 8

well if you are being threatened with harrassment charges for wanting to see your kids then your best bet is to get court ordered visitation with them (which shouldn't be that complicated) then that time is yours and there is nothing the other can say or do about it.

Answer 9

stalk them
look through the windows

or don't be a dead beat loserand get your act together

Answer 10

talk to a lawer....... he will help u.... that what my wife did when she wan a divorce......... after my lawer told her off, i can take them out when ever i wan......... best wish to u