My kids have not lived with me in 3 years. I currently live in Lawton, OK and my two daughters live in DC with their father. Who is always in New York with his girlfriend. My son is 18 and currently lives with his father in OKC. Now please don't get it twisted, after my divorce I had to get away from my lie, cheating husband, I was not financially stable to bring my girls to Oklahoma. I am better now finacially, but the neighborhood that I live in is not good for teenage girls (No what I mean) my 15 year old is on a mission from Hell. and my 13 year old hates everybody and everything. I am single and trying to get my life together, but recovery is not easy after 15 years of marriage. Any help out there for a poor desprate mother.
2006-07-14 05:15:18 · 7 answers · asked by Ms. Good P. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i also have 3 kids. they are girl 19 girl 17 boy 13. when my girls where 3 and 5 i ended up in a homeless shelter oldest was starting king and i was a lost person there dad went to prison.i had to send my daughters my life to mich from tx with there grandfather. so see as adults and parents were not perfect and we have to think what is best for them . yes they came home after a year. dont give up . its hard for girls u have to talk to them be open with them . and they will make mistakes just be there for theme,.all teens hate everone speacily parents. just let her know u love her and your there for them. do what u have to for u to be save so u can get them .until then keep your chin up and let them know how much u love them.
good luck
2006-07-14 05:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by robin w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The boy probably needs to stay with his father because he's at the age where he's better off with Dad. Your daughters are going through that crazy age, makes you wish for the terrible twos again. So I believe that they really need you in their life as they approach young womanhood. Usually missions from hell do end, you just don't know when. Try to get them back and the neighborhood doesn't matter. You do realize that you will be able to get child support from ex. In any case your daughters need you now and that may be the reason why they are acting out. They didn't really understand why you left them. So be patient and hang on in there. Good luck.
2006-07-14 05:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So a 15 and a 13 year old are being left alone while their dad travels to New York? You need to do something about that.
Do you want them to come live with you? Who cares what kind of neighborhood you live in. As long as your love and values are strong while you try to make a difference in their lives, it doesn't matter what setting you live in.
Teenage girls need their mommies because there are some things we just do not want to involve our dads in.
"Mommies little monsters, Daddies little girls."
Dads are such push overs when it comes to their daughters.
It sounds like they need you Mom.
Also, you did not do anything wrong so stop feeling so guilty.
2006-07-14 06:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you asking help with? Sounds like your girls need someone to show that THEY are important.........it won't be long and you will be dealing with a pregnant daughter.....they will go some where to get the attention.
I think you excuse of not having your girls with you...."bad neighborhood"....is LAME.....your kids should come first....if they don't have adult supervision with their dad...then living with an adult who will supervise them.......even if it is a bad neighborhood.....is better.
2006-07-14 05:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by adnerb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good that you're getting your life back together and that you are making the necessary steps to take care of yourself and your future, your children who are are each dealing with it in their own way and this may explain why your children are acting out at the moment, take small steps in trying to get them back in your life and let them no that what happened in the marriage is not their fault, most kids think the breakup of a marriage has something to do with them, or they end up resenting what has happened and starts to resent one of the parents, but take small steps into trying to rebuild your relationship with them and things will start to progress but it takes time, good luck.....
2006-07-14 05:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hope you cna get your children back if you want them and maybe they will stop hating everything. You made a good choice too.
2006-07-14 05:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with your kids and may god bless you.....
2006-07-14 05:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by queen b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋