This question kind of was sparked by another one asked. I am nearing the end of my divorce am really trying hard to rediscover myself and heal from the rejection from both him and my best friend. I am not a shy person when I get to know people but I am shy in showing up meetings by myself.
2006-07-14 05:12:47 · 15 answers · asked by libby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks everyone for your kind words, I am back in school and working on getting my dream degree 'nursing'. I thought of volunteering when the kids go to him. Its just hard not having that ANY friends to call on the phone and cry to or just have coffee with, ya know do the girlie thing :) I guess not having the best friend around thing is a good thing as this will teach me to handle anything without someone to hold me up. Anyways again thanks guy!!
2006-07-14 07:02:48 · update #1
Hey hang in there. First start with somethingmeeting/ activities that interests you. Attend it becoz you wanted to, not becoz you want to meet potential dates. Women tends to exude charm when they do something that they enjoy, and being confident in doing it is the word. If you are confident, you wont feel shy. E.g. Volunteer becoz you wanted to help the old, not becoz you think that the other volunteer would be a potential nice husband. Enjoy doing what you like, everything will fall into place after that. :)
2006-07-14 05:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by aiyoyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't show your ex husband and bestfriend that you shy showing up meeting by yourself and stuff... I know it been hard on you and you are smart and you able to do things. and It not end of the world. I though end of world for me but when 5 years later after my ex wife and I remarried to my second wife and it was the best thing for me for 9 years now. .
You will be doing great. sometime things happen for wrong reason. You didn't do anything at all....I wish I can be your friend and you can see what I see. smile. You are a truly person and don't change because of this. Be the same person you were. If not, it will come around you again smile.
2006-07-14 05:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no friends either. The best thing I can reccommend is getting a hobby. Preferably one where you are outside being active. I bougt some golf clubs this spring and I'm learning to play golf. I really have a good time going to this big field and swinging my clubs. I checked a book out at the library and I'm teaching myself. I also bought a mountain bike and enjoy putting on some headphones and riding. Also, a big friendly dog like a labrador or a collie or german shepard is a great cure for loneliness.
2006-07-14 05:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by lefty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put on a confident air and you will attract people. Going through a divorce is hard enough but even harder when you are lonely. It is a sobering reminder that at the end of the day the only ones we can rely on are ourselves. We all go over speed bumps in our lives and you need to be around people so why not join a good old fashioned Church group and enjoy the company of people who care?
2006-07-14 05:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by mandbturner3699 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the best ways to get out to meet others and help yourself is volunteering. The library is a good place because you get to see lots of different people everyday. Lots of government agencies and hospitals accept volunteers. You must realize that there are others in worse situations then you and when you get out there and start helping others, they will help heal you. Good Luck.
2006-07-14 05:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just have to let time heal the rejection. After these 2 key rejections in your life it can be difficult. But don't let that define who you are. You are valuable and have a lot to offer. So show up at the meetings, sparkle, be friendly, be yourself. Over time you can create new friendships.
2006-07-14 05:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by stick man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then take a friend with you to one of those speed datings. I'm sure you will find at least one guy that will spark your interest. Always better to have a cheering crowd. For me, I'd do better alone, I wouldn't be afraid of being myself since no one will be there to watch me. Good luck!
2006-07-14 05:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by jade11378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times when you go to meetings... people will come up to you... I move from chicago where everything that i know is at to El Paso... and i know no one... and so I went to a group from Miltary wifes... and most people talk to me... I know life is hard... but remember you have something in common with everyone in that group and everything else will brighten up...
2006-07-14 05:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by A_Soldiers_Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. You can try to go to a local bar or gym you can make somefriends there. You're starting a new life now and its time to change somethings about yourself. Loosen up. GOOD LUCK
2006-07-14 05:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by Happy Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I surely have friends yet no longer friends that i quite hangout with or talk each and every of the time with. Im continuously bored at homestead yet in college is way funner. you ought to flow to varsity, that's common to make friends.
2016-10-14 11:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by jackson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋