a question only mothers can answer?

Question

how is pregnancy, how painful is giving birth, be as descriptive as possible. do you regret it. what do you think is the best part of being a mother, also be as descriptive as possible. at what age did you feel you wanted to be a mother, was ur little one a mistake? or was it planned. what advice would you give to someone that is not sure if they want to have kids.

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Answer 1

Pregnancy is hard. Swolen feet heartburn back aches problems walking eating or even breathing waking at all times of night to pee. *eek* hemorrhoids...Birth is painful it feels as if your body will split open from the inside and it burns OMG does it burn down there.. A csection is a different pain it is painful after the birth.. The eipdural does hurt but if you are in labor it is a welcomed relief. My children were not planned but were not mistakes as i knew the risk I was taking so did hubby. My first child was stillborn and that is painful to this day..My second is almost 2 now and my youngest is 9 months. The best is seeing their little faces bodies and smiles when I come home and they are glad to see me. It is wonderful. Or when they wake and want me not daddy. It;s great. Right now I see a naked 9 month old and a half naked 20 month old they are playing and I am in heaven. They are alive happy and healthy what more could I need or want....
If you are not sure that you want kids remember what it is like to sleep in go where you want to go when you want. Going out parties vacations the cleaning the laundry the messes, the up all nights and they are not easy...The colds the sickies the dr appointments the shots and even a quick trip to the store is not so quick with kids. I am 27 and I am not sure somedays I want to have kids..but they are my life and I love them ... Children take a lot from you but they give alot too...

Answer 2

That's a difficult question to answer, as every woman is different & every pregnancy is different. I loved being pregnant! With my first daughter, the only indication I had that I was pregnant, other than the growing belly (but that doesn't start for about 5-6 months) was the extreme fatigue & over-active appetite. Other than that, I never had any trouble. Sure you gain weight, but you're supposed to - it's expected. My second daughter was a little bit more uncomfortable with some nausea, alot of movement ALL the time & she dropped real early, so I had alot of pressure you know where (but that was only from about 7 months on until she was born). But, I still adored being pregnant. It's such a special feeling knowing that you're creating a human life & to feel it move inside you is an indescribable feeling. My sister, on the other hand, hated being pregnant both times. She was sick all the time, very uncomfortable & overall just miserable. Like I said before - every woman is different & every pregnancy is different. Only YOU will have the pregnancy that YOU will have. You can't compare your experience with others, as no-one elses pregnancy is going to be the exact same.

Labor is VERY uncomfortable, but worth every minute, because look what you get when you're all done! A beautiful baby with the extraordinary task of shaping a new human being into a happy, productive person. It's an awesome responsibility. Now, I had 1 vaginal delivery & 1 C-section. Both are a little scary & both have advantages and/or disadvantages. With a vaginal delivery you go through the pain of labor & it's exhausting work, but if you get an epidural (which I highly recommend), the pain isn't too bad. It's after the fact. You're on an incredible high from giving birth, but very tired & look like hell. And let's not forget about the post partum! You're emotions take you on the roller coaster ride of your life. I was crying at FTD commercials & wanted absolutely nothing to do with my husband until my hormones calmed down. With my 2nd daughter, I had a C-section. It's a little scary having to have surgery, but you get a spinal block, so you don't feel anything & it only takes about 20 minutes from start to finish. None of all that intense work of the vaginal delivery. However, you have the incision pain to deal with which lasts for about a week. You do get pain killers for that though - so it's not too bad & my post partum was nothing with the section.

Both of my children were planned, so I don't know if the above advice helps. But having children is a great experience. Sure, you'll want to kill them sometimes when they're driving you nuts, but those moments are few & far between. I always think of the Peace Corps. commercial when it comes to describing the job of parenting - "It's the toughest job you'll ever love." And to quote a line from one of my favorite movies, " as hard as you think it will be, you end up wishing it were that easy!"

I hope that helps. Good luck.

Answer 3

Every person and every pregnancy is different.

I LOVED pregnancy. I was more healthy and energetic during pregnancy. Getting the IV was more painful than labor pains. Getting the epidural was the most painful experience I've ever had. After the epidural was done, I felt nothing from the waist down. I don't want to get an epidural again.

Post pregnancy was the worst part because of feeding her every 2 hours. I'd hire a baby nurse to do the night feedings if I have another. Also my tummy was actually BIGGER when I left the hospital, that was horrible. She was about 6 weeks old before I started noticing a difference and 12 weeks old before I could squeeze into my old jeans. I also didn't like the jello feeling I had after giving birth. That was terrible too. Overall I loved pregnancy and labor and delivery.

I love my daughter she is so wonderful I can't explain it.

Answer 4

I had my first child when I was 15 years old. I became pregnant at 14 and despite trouble with school and being homeless the first 3 months it went well. I threw up every morning and most of the day for the first 5 months.... I thought I would die. He wasn't necessarily planned, but I did end up marrying his father. My second child was concieved when I was 19 years old and that pregnancy was much worse. I threw up the entire time. Every bone in my body hurt and for the last 5 months I felt as though I had been hit in the crotch with a sledge hammer. Labor sucked too. I labored for 18 hours and in the end saw the most beautifull baby ever. My third son is most fresh in my mind as he is only 8 months old. I wasn't sick at all with him perhaps because he had a different father. Anyhow, I didn't even feel pregnant until about the 6th month. It was a great pregnancy.... until the sledge hammer thing happened again. I was HUGE with him.... I still look about 5 months pregnant in my opinion. The worst part about my pregnancy with him was the labor. My water broke and labor didn't begin until 22 hours later. Then I labored an additional 20 hours.... I couldn't sit still long enough for an epidural and the pain was like being stabbed in the vagina. But, then again after so much pain it was all washed away by a beautifull baby. I think that no matter the pain or discomfort babies are always worth it. I have a 9 year old, 5 year old, and an 8 month old. Every one of them is great in their own little personality. However, I do wish somedays that I had not had any of them. I hope that answered your questions. Feel free to contact me if you want anything specific I have left out. Best wishes

Answer 5

Pregnancy is great if you can get past the first few months of all day sickness and then make it through the last month of your body extending beyond normal capacity. Although it sounds like a lot, feeling the little person inside of you makes it worth it.
Birth is extremely painful but drugs help if you're into that, which I was. It's funny though how as soon as you see the baby and hold that little person you'd been dreaming of you forget all about what you just went through. I always wanted to be a mom but was more afraid of the pregnancy and birth experience than death itself. It stopped me for a long time. My little one wasn't planned but we didn't try to stop it either. We just let nature decide if it was right and I have no regrets. Well sometimes I wish I'd tried sooner!
I think the advice I'd give is that you can't try to be fully prepared, you never are. What you can try to do is make yourself as knowledgeable about the experience as possible and then go with it. If you don't think you can possibly make the time for that litle life though, don't try. It shouldn't be someone else's burden. Every child deserves someones undivided love and attention.
Good Luck in what you choose!

Answer 6

Pregnancy is truly a gift from god, you can go on here and read the questions from many women who can't get pregnant or have a lot of trouble. Consider yourself lucky if you get pregnant. Giving birth is painful, depending on what birthing method you choose. I had an epidural at dilated to 5 cm and I was in pain at that point. I lost a baby at 20 weeks and was induced with no epidural and I was in major pain. I do not regret being a mother, it is one thing in life I can look back at and say I did that, that came from me. It's like a giant life long project that you get to watch grow and prosper. You children are no better than the way you raise them. I was 25 and had been married 5 years and it was a good age for me. I'm now 31 and 4 weeks pregnant again. Aspen was not planned(never a mistake) and this one now was planned. The meaning of life is to grow your seeds we are here to produce, but get your life straight and get married (if not) and take all precautions if you don't want to become pregnant, I can assure you motherhood at the right age is a wonderful full filling life changing event
Good luck and I hope this helps

Answer 7

I've always known I want to be a mother, but it took over 10 years to get there. I went through years of fertility treatments and then finally got to the point we didn't think it would happen. The choice to have a baby or to know if you're ready is soley up to you. If you have a question about it, then maybe that means you're not quite ready yet and give it more time. As far as childbirth, I was a giant wimp -- I went the way of an elective c-section. The whole thing 25 minutes from start to finish and I had an epidural, so I didn't feel a thing. About a week of pain pills afterwards, and it went great. I wouldn't do it any other way. Good luck on your decision....just remember you don't have to jump into anything today and to take your time.

Answer 8

Pregnancy is a little uncomfortable when you start getting big, and the so called advice from complete strangers if annoying.

I didn't give birth, I had a csection and it was hell for the first two days, but I didn't tell anyone, because I knew that if I told anyone, they wouldn't let me go see my baby in the NICU, they'd make me stay in bed. But they did have to sedate me the second night because I was in so much pain.

I don't regret anything about my pregnancy, or my son, except for, I shouldn't have went to walmart for some things for dinner, and we wouldn't have had the accident that caused him to have to be born 7wks early.

The best part of being a mother is when you look at your baby and smile, and he grins and giggles back to you.

I wanted to be a mom when I was like 14, but I knew better. I knew that to give my baby the best life possible, I had to be in a committed, stable relationship with a loving partner, before I could ever have a child.

Ethan was not a mistake. We tried for on and off for about a year, and then really started paying attention for 3 months to concieve him.

If you're not sure if you want to have kids or not, then don't. Babysit, visit family with kids, offer to be a mothers helper. If the kids drive you nuts, you don't want to be a mom because you'll have them 24/7 not just for a few hours.

Answer 9

Is your question because your pregnant?? Are you considering an abortion? If so that is something I do not agree with, but is a personal decision. Whatever your view is on it, follow what you believe. As for your question...I've had two babies. One is 3 and the other 4 months. They were both suprise pregnancies but I in no way think having either of them was a mistake. I can't imagine my life without them. I've always known I wanted kids. I have a boy and a girl and I'll tell you what--the pregnancies were soooo different. With my daughter I gained like 25lbs, I was only sick for a week, and I really enjoyed being pregnant. I was so excited to go thru another prenancy. But this time I was miserable!! I gained like 45lbs, I was sick everyday even thru my ninth month! I was in such pain, I had several ultrasounds on my legs looking for blood clots. Both deliveries tho were a breeze. The contractions were the worste pain i'd ever felt, but after the epidural kicked in, I felt absolutly nothing. My water broke both times, I had my daughter in 5 hours, and my son in 4. If you have any other questions, you can email me.

Answer 10

If you are not sure you want to have kids, then you are not ready for them and should hold off.

I have 3 kids and I will admit, each one of them was not planned. I almost gave the oldest up, but could not bring myself to doing that. I hated being pregnant, even though the pregnancies were very easy with very little weight gain. Child birth was very easy with little pain, however I know that is not usually the case.

I was 19 when my oldest was born and mid-20s when the third one was born and I know that I was too young for all of them. I think that the late 20s is the best age to begin having a family, but that is my opinion only.