I am 43 and I have a friend who is 25, who I am very attracted to. We get along famously but I would like to try and take things a little further with him. Considering that I'm not even sure if he sees me this way, how can I do this with dignity, but at the same time come across as attractive and available?
2006-07-14 04:55:47 · 30 answers · asked by Lynne W 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
To those of you who suggest drinks, slutty clothes or material possesions - remember that I did specify _dignity_.... and all the aforementioned methods are, well, pathetic....
2006-07-14 05:01:17 · update #1
I don't want a relationship with this guy, I just want to have him every now and then, but not in a slutty way.
2006-07-14 05:38:11 · update #2
You can get a younger man the same way a man gets a younger women.
Money, things, do you have a car and a house and a good job?
To young people thats really attractive
2006-07-14 04:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is something I would never do cause I'm 43 also, but never attracted to young men, I always like older man.
But I have seen in my friends when they try to attract a younger man. These women talk about their sexual experience, and are very teaser to younger men, they will try with their walks, words and most of all, swing their hands on their faces. Younger men knows that a woman at that age is more experience and knows how to find her orgasm in a pleasant sweet way without making lots of noises and grumbling. So they want to experience that and compare it with younger girls.
So that is why some of those younger man prefers an older woman, because they discover what real sex is. But until that woman start wrinkling, now they know girls their own age are been experience and they will change.
So I will stay with the older man.
2006-07-14 05:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by Evy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey good for you. I'm forty five myself and don't feel the connection to youth that way but I think it's great that you've got that. The age difference isn't the important thing to my way of thinking, it's the honesty and common interests. so then I would think that some straight talk would fit the bill here.I wouldn't talk about sex at first, but most people get the idea if you don't kitty foot around ( they won't let you write that other word in here, so strange ). Victory favours the bold my Dear, be bold! Good luck eh!
2006-07-14 05:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of these answers are not really helpful. I think you should continue to talk with him, but start flirting with him and see his reaction to it. If he flirts back, then continue and then take the conversation onto the lines of a relationship. He obviously likes you and respects you as an older woman to get along with you famously. The rest I think, as an older woman you can figure out.
2006-07-14 05:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I don't want a relationship with this guy, I just want to have him every now and then, but not in a slutty way" <<
Seriously, with the age difference you are talking about and the fact that you just want a physical relationship...what is the benefit for him? Maybe you can pay him?
2006-07-14 06:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him some flowers, be around where hi likes to be, become his friend first and talk about everything the most important think learn to listen to him.
Invite him for a nice dinner @ your place give him a nice back massage maybe ask him to do the same to you. DO NOT make the first move, make him feel important in your life make sure you receive the signals one think will take you to next one . I hope this will help you
2006-07-14 05:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by Bratso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the time you get to read this question you will probably be 44,i say go for it big style,time is short what have you got to lose,i would certainly be flattered and a little turned on from the attention of a mature woman
2006-07-14 06:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by havanadig 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a 25 year guy . . . use your eyes . . .
A look . . .
A light, innocent touch on the wrist . . .
A warm, soft smile . . .
Believe me, Lynne; these are the sorts of things that get a boy's attention.
I've been attracted to older women most of my life, going back to the time I was a pre-teen and developed a crush on my mother's best friend Doreen.
The more "womanly" your behavior when you're with him, the more likely you are to stir him up.
2006-07-27 03:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by lopsided_heart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The open approach is the most honest and dignified. I would just tell him, that you find yourself wanting to have a physical relationship with him. It might scare him a little, because maybe he never considered it, but if done in a nuetral no pressure environment you should be successful. Men like it, REALLY like when women tell them exactly what they want and the manner in which they want it.
2006-07-14 05:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by magerious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to worry there, if he's been looking for a sugar mama, he's already got you picked out, be careful if further means you hopes for a serious relationship. Wishing you the best either way, good luck!
2006-07-14 05:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋