I am having this huge problem!!! I live in a house with my husband, son and two of our friends. They are both guys, brothers. The rent is 1700, we pay 850, and they each pay 425. We pay more because we have more space because we are a family. The problem is this, one of the guys is talking a lot and doing nothing. He doesn't buy food, he moved his son here, and that was not part of the plan at all (not that that is a problem, just not part of the plan), they were short on the rent last month, and paid no utilities. This is the final straw, he is not the cleanest person in the world, and the other day I said something to him about it, and the talk went into an argument where he disrespected me. The problem is that I really don't want to live under the same roof as this guy, but we are christians and my husband wants me to forgive him, (by the way my husband is on my side either way). I really want to forgive him but right now, I don't feel like I can. Any suggestions???
2006-07-14 04:41:25 · 8 answers · asked by me m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
to lindazgardener, I don't tell him how to be where he pays rent, wich is for the upstairs, I am not trying to be his mother, but the fact of the matter is this, I care about the environment my son is in and I want it to be clean. I don't see anything wrong with that.
2006-07-14 04:59:04 · update #1
Its tough to live with other people. My husband and i tried living with our friends to help save on cost of rent and utitlites it last about 6 months and when we finally moved out it took several months before I could actually be in the same room as the other woman that was living there with her husband. we fought about the same things who should cook what should be cooked who should clean and when. My advice would be to be honest with all parties involved about how stressfull this living arangement is for you and make plans with everyone on how to fix it or on how for you all to split and get your own places before you ruin your friendships. Because when i was in this situation i didnt talk it out with my friends i just told my husband we are moving and that is that. Afterwards when things had cooled down we all sat down and talked about what had happened and was able to be friends again and could have prevented the months of not talking if Myself and the other woman had just talked in the first place.
2006-07-14 04:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by starrmerlan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm, if you kick him out will you be able to pay 1,700 a month? and if not will you be able to find better roommate than him? Is he on the lease? and if not then cool you can kick him out. I think you have forgive him so many time. and He didn't tell you that he bring his son in. and He late for paying rent, not buying food and bills. and I think that you can raise the rent plus food like 525.00 (100.00) more for the food for a month. and If he won't then tell him can't touch any of the food. and Tell him that you need to be clean up because I have son here you need to show him a good example if you can't then I think you need to move out. If not then I will be force to call the police. so your choice.
I am a Christian and I trying to help you and being nice to you and now you giving me hard time, paying rent late, bring your son in your room, all that not fair for me. SO you need to act up or get lost.
You have the right becaue for a family reason and If he can't show respect for you then he need to be gone.
2006-07-14 05:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a married couple you probably shouldn't be living with room mates in the first place. If you can't afford the rent alone then you probably shouldn't be living where you are. I did this as a single mom and will never do it again. It causes too much stress such as this. If someone's not paying their fair share then it causes extra financial stress especially if things are already tight money wise.
2006-07-14 04:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 4 in an appartment? it is your difficulty. On correct of it, you're the in common words female!!!!! pay interest, they don't look to be going to regulate and also you may mot substitute them. both lay the regulations down and in the experience that they don't shop on with, in accordance to celebration, you could - purchase you own toilette paper and shop it on your room - alongside with the function of paper you're making use of at present. - sit them down and because there is 4 of you, assign each a week-end that you're going to sparkling the lavatory. - i have also had a roommate that use to devour my food, so I positioned laxatives in mine... i know it sounds advise, yet he in no way did it back. - you won't be able to anticipate people to act and do stuff the precise way you do them, notwithstanding, once you all stay jointly, some uncomplicated regulations should be said and it is what you want to have a gathering about. in case you do not say some thing, believe me, that's going to in common words get worst, earlier it receives extra valuable. yet my suggestion? start up searching for yet another position to stay.
2016-11-02 01:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by rangnow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you christians kill me! anyway forgive him or not is not the issue. The issue is ..is this living situation in the best interest of your family? I think you and your hubby should move out and get your own place.
2006-07-14 04:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the rent and divide it by the number of resident ...thats fairly easy... then forgive yourself for disrespecting him (telling him how to live in HIS home)...you are his roomate not his mother
2006-07-14 04:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by lindazgardner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave, but ask nicely. He sounds like a creep.
2006-07-14 04:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by ~jenn~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would give them 30 days to move out or follow your rules. fair is fair.
2006-07-14 04:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by amber_grace753 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋