She told me she went off her birth control and her boyfriend thinks she's still on it. She also is tampering w/ the condoms and he has no clue. I talked to her but she keeps doing it and ignors me. What should I do, I don't know him well enough to talk to him w/out her around and i don't want him to get trapped. I also don't want her to ruin her life she can't afford for this to happen
2006-07-14 04:40:32 · 18 answers · asked by CamPIL 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Have another talk with your girlfriend. Tell her that just because she would get pregnant, doesn't mean that her b/f would stay with her. If he doesn't then she is going to be raising the baby by herself.
A baby changes your life forever. They are not all fun and games. They get sick, they cry, they get up all hours of the night. You don't get to go anywhere without them unless you can find a babysitter. You don't get to go out with your friends and do all the fun stuff anymore unless you bring the baby along. When you have the baby with you, most guys your age will not want to go out with you.
Most boys that are trapped will not stick around after they find out what happened to you. Yes, they will still be responsible for helping to support the child, but most do not come around to help out when it's needed the most.
After you have a baby, you usually loose most of your friends too because you begin to not have things in common with them anymore. You are haivng baby problems and they are having b/f problems.
If worse comes to worse, try to get his cell number and have another friend call him and let him know (another friend that doesn't know this girl)...leave a note for him someplace only he will find it, or if you could meet up with one of his friends and tell them to tell him.
You're a great friend for looking out for your g/f and her b/f. You are right in trying to talk her out of this.
Good Luck!
2006-07-14 04:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by 317bossyaussie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if I were you since you're son concerned I would just tell him exactly what is going on. The next time he's around and she's there just play it off and say you have to ask him a question in private. Or if you know any of his hang outs go without her so you can worn him. Good Luck!!!
2006-07-14 11:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by pooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is wrong to trap a man like that. I would send an anynomous letter(of course typed & mail it from a different zip code). He needs to know what she is doing. If he don't want to spend the rest of his life with her, having a baby isn't going to help. She needs to wait until he thinks it's also a good time.
2006-07-14 11:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't listening to you, she is REAALLY being stupid. She is trying to trap this man by getting pregnant. I think you should find a way to communicate with him. Especially since she won't listen to you. Understand that you might lose her as a friend, or she might be really mad for a while.
I would talk to her one more time and tell her that she is being immature and foolish and that trying to get pregnant behind his back is NOT going to make him stay. If I was him, it would make me LEAVE NOW...
2006-07-14 11:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that what she's doing is wrong, you have a moral obligation to tell the guy, no matter how well you know him. Otherwise, you're really no better than she is...and yes she is trying to trap him and/or screw up both their lives. CONTACT him NOW!!!
2006-07-14 11:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that when you become a mother you should always be thinking of what is in the best interest of the child. Ask her if she thinks that it's in the best interest to force someone to become a father if they dont want to be. How will the affect the child?
2006-07-14 11:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would contact him anyways whether i knew him well or not, she is not only tampering with her own life but now with his, a child should be his choice too.. i would definetly let him know what she is doing...that way if something happens you can say you tried...
2006-07-14 11:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by sassy_girl200501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's really your true friend, you'll want to protect her from ruining her life at such a young age.
YOU NEED TO TELL THE GUY WHAT SHE'S DOING, NOW
2006-07-14 11:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Becky. Contact her boyfriend now and let him know what's going on.
2006-07-14 11:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. this is one of those things where Miss. Manners would say.. it's none of your business.. it's her mess and she's going to have to deal with it. Tell her how you feel, and tell her that if she continues this, you're not going to help her when she's in a jam.
2006-07-14 11:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋