How do I bring it up to him without him thinking that I was snooping or checking on him. I was looking to see if anyone had found our dog since the cell # was on her tag. I don't believe this other women has any idea about ME!!!
2006-07-14 04:31:18 · 26 answers · asked by gulalisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay what if the dog "thing" happened today and I checked his mail last night. Is it okay to check his vmail?
2006-07-14 04:38:50 · update #1
The message stated that she didn't want to be lead to thinking that there were feelings there that were not there. She didn't want to be ignored any longer. She thought there was somting more and wanted to find out from HIM!!
2006-07-14 04:41:12 · update #2
Hey
now you know you were wrong for checking his voicemail! but since you did, lets deal with it. this is what you can do..
Ask him has he had any messages regarding the dog. he will say no. Then say, you know I really need to talk to you, is there anything you need to tell me that your not telling me, How is our relationship, are you okay?
Then I would fess up! I was checking your voicemail and I heard a very intresting message...Can you explain this?
Apologize for snooping-cause that is what you were doing, and then say but I need to know because this weighs heavily on my heart and mind, and let him know if
you feel if he is being unfaithful, but dont ever jump to conclusions, that will bad!
2006-07-14 04:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just tell him the truth you were check about the dog and there is a strange message what's up with that but if you can get ahold of his cell phone check the address book and you can always call the woman Hi you called this number did you find my dog cause a cheating spouse is nothing but a dog anyway either way your find out
2006-07-14 04:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by twistedsingle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a relationship any action a person takes they should ask themself first "Would my husband/wife approve?"
If the answer is 'no' then they should not do it. You have every right to know what your husband is up to REGARDLESS of how you discover it.
If he is doing things you would not approve of then HE IS WRONG!!!
Tell him what you discovered offering no reason on how you discovered it and tell him that you feel hurt about the threat of infildelity.
If he uses anger to put you off then he is a cheat and the sooner you find out the better! On the otherhand, if he is sorrowful and expresses regret then probably nothing happened and you should ensure he understand such behavior is unacceptable and you should give him another chance.
Good luck!
2006-07-14 04:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't jump to conclusions. I had woman leave a message on my cell. I had my GF call her back to see why she had left the message and she had dialed a wrong number.
However, I would approach it like this. Tell him that you checked his messages to see if anyone had called about the dog and that no one had. Don't mention the message she left, see if he brings it up. If not, then later, ask him "What was that strange message about?".
2006-07-14 04:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, dont think the worst, if he has been ignoring her, maybe thats cause she is pursuing him. Give him a chance to know what you found out via the whole dog thing. Then give him a chance to defend himself. You should be able to tell whether or not hes lying and whether or not hes been playing you
2006-07-14 04:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had a voicemail from her, I assume her number is also in his cell under missed calls, or check the bill for the time and date of the call.
If you have her number, call and very politely and sweetly ask her what her business is with your husband.
If it is something odious, you'll know you have good grounds for confronting him. It would be seriously damaging to confront him just to find out it was a wrong number or something.
2006-07-14 04:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by Yote' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just tell him what you wrote here?
If I read your last line right, you were not sure what is going on and you might have doubted his trustworthiness. Will you get to the truth if you confront him? Maybe it will be easier if you let him know your position if there is another woman. Didn't he know a woman, a wife's position? He should, but occasional remind won't harm if it is just a bubble.
2006-07-14 04:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by ridgeland9876 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the message? Like he is seeing her or sleeping with her? More info, please. If so, I would confront him, who cares if he gets mad that you checked his voice mail? Aren't you the victim here? I say, do whatever it takes to catch a lying, cheating dog. He's the one in the wrong, not you. If he was not doing anything wrong, he wouldn't care if you checked it.
2006-07-14 04:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has nothing to hide he will not get angry about you checking the phone. if he does get angry, however, then he has some explaining to do. he is your husband and you deserve to know whats going on. no other woman should be leaving him these kinds of messages. chances are this woman does not know about you and even if she does your husband is not being truthful to you. ask him about it and if he can't give you a straight answer, chances are you need to move on. you deserve better then a spouse you can't trust.
2006-07-14 04:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by LawlietLover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for such a serious thing, i think the snooping part is the least of his worries. Tell him about the dog thing, and dont let him use the snooping as an excuse. thats B.S.
2006-07-14 04:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋