My boyfriend (who I have been dating a little over two years now) went on a camping trip this weekend with his buds. I noticed that he wrote "Rit." and "Vic." on his list of things to pack. Curious, I asked him what the abbreviations meant. He hesitantly told me that "Rit." stood for "Ritalin" and "Vic." stood for "Vicodin." Now, I know my boyfriend does not have A.D.D., nor is he in serious or compelling pain. Obviously his intentions were to use the prescription drugs recreationally with his friends. He admitted that in the past he has taken these drugs "just for fun" and that it was "no big deal." He also said that he doesn't do it all the time. However, I am disappointed because I never intended to date a person who does drugs (even once in a while), especially at the mature age of 26. In my heart I know it's not right. I still love him very much and I live with him. What should I do?
2006-07-14 04:30:04 · 8 answers · asked by HygirL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When he gets back from his trip, tell him straight up that the use of prescription drugs without due cause or need is still drug use. I'm sure you probably have discussed this issue with him in the past, so he should be aware of your values, and he's in complete disregard for those values (BTW, good for you!). Tell him to stop or you will leave. And then you need to have enough self-esteem to follow through on your threat.
Drug use and abuse is not the same as having a good time, regardless of what drug you're using.
2006-07-14 04:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious problem as you know. He is abusing these drugs and it is dangerous. The best thing you can do for him and for yourself is to make it clear that your not willing to be in a relationship with someone who does this. He either stops or the relationship stops. I know that sounds hard to do when you love someone but you have to be honest with yourself about the fact that ultimately if he drug use continues it will be a bigger and bigger issue for you. You need to find out now if drugs are important to him or if your more important and he is willing to stop. Unfortunately your also going to have to deal with a trust issue here because even if he doesn't do the drugs at home you will wonder if every time he is hanging out with these friends if he is doing drugs.
2006-07-14 04:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u should not stay with him any more.Tht guy seems to be taking drugs just for fun.Then he might be just loving u for fun.
If u still love him u should send him for diagnosis to become deaddict frm drugs but Or u should leave him cause these people are use less.My friends are also addicted to such things but im not because I stand to my principle to not invlve in such kind of work they tell life is for fun so enjoy but they dont know tht they are ruining there own life.Your boy frnd does not stand to his principles.How u can believe him in ur life span.
The best thing to leave him and find some decent,simple,intelligent boy who know wht is good and bad for his life.
2006-07-14 04:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by ADITYA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel using the words "I feel....". If you have serious permanent intentions regarding this man, make it clear that there is no room for recreational drug use in your life.
He has to make the decision not to do it based on how much he wants to be with you. If he will not quit, then you should stop seeing him. Good luck!
2006-07-14 04:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Leadbelly's answer was cause for concern! Do you really think a group of guys camping out in the forest would take these? His response seems like a valid point.
How well do you know him?
2006-07-14 05:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u think hes doin the drugs again
2006-07-14 04:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by hotcakelaugh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he uses the drugs to spike womens drinks.
he and his friends then have sex with them while the women are groggy.
2006-07-14 04:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all depends on how much you love and trust him , if you have any thought on drug use tell him , it can't hurt
2006-07-14 04:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by diablo0470 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋