i have noticed my husband is spending money on line?

Question

we have separate bank accts, but i have come across a way to see his banking activity. he is quite unaware of this. I noticed that he spent over 2k in one month. I don't know how to bring it to his attention because i checked his bank acct unofficially! any suggestions????

i should have added that i confirmed it is on-line gambling.. poker and sports betting

Answer 1

WELL I GUESS NO U CANT BRING IT UP
FOR LOOKING INTO HIS THINGS W/O
HIM KNOWING I THINK U
MIGHT JUST HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT
BESIDES IF U 2 R MARRIED WHY DO YALL HAVE
SEPERATE ACCOUNTS IN THE FIRST PLACE

Answer 2

Thats why once u get married u should combine everything bc yes u r snooping but both of ur income should be looked at as one so if he gets mad then he needs a reality check bc when u got married u became one you have every right to know anything u want at the same time he has every right to know ur buisness as well. U all should also sit down and look at the way ur doing things bc it may be time for change. Seperate money means seperate hearts u all need to become one.

Answer 3

Wow. Does he not have anything to show for it? Maybe he loaned it out to someone in need. I would hire a private eye to see what he is doing behind your back. Did it not tell you what is was taking out for. Like from a ATM or to a department store or something? Usually it tells you something of the sort. Your name should be on his bank account incase something ever happens to him so you will be able to get the money. If your name is on the account, you should be able to call the bank and ask them about it. Good luck.

Answer 4

Question: Do you have a marriage or a joint business venture? Did the priest-minister-pastor-justice pronounce you man and wife and say two have become one?

Why do you combine all aspects of your life but seperate the money? Money is one of the most often fought about things in marriages today, if you dont keep a handle on it and agree, it will getcha!

It has been said that seperating money is an excuse to keep from communicating.

Answer 5

You've made the decision to have separate banking accounts for a reason. Do you think that what you spend out of your account is his business? If he's spending that money on porn or other adult sites then perhaps you have cause for concern otherwise stop spying on him or recommend consolidating accounts

Answer 6

this is a sticky situation. you're going to have to admit to snooping in order to find out what is going on. Is he into porn sites, is he shopping, gambling, investing into stocks?

Depends what he's doing with it on how you should proceed. obviously if he's into porn or gamblin you are going to have to ask him some hard questions and come up with some solutions. If it's more innocent like shpping or investing, etc. then as ong as the houseehold budget isn't suffering, you may not be able to complain too much about it.

good luck

Answer 7

first you can never bring it up cause you have broken the rules; you should never sneak around and search your parteners things (problem wit trust). Second, once you find out what he was buying it could effect the marriage (divorce). Third, he could have bought you something (ruined the surprise). Forth, if he is buying stuff wit his money and taking care of you and home (where's the problem) and finally if he ain't being all suspect then leave him be.

Answer 8

Wow, net porn is expensive. Well, since you've violated the trust, why stop there? Go ahead and confront him about it. Should be a doozy of a fight. Have 911 on speed dial, just in case. "Let's get ready to rumble!!!!!!"

Answer 9

Stop being a money grubbing untrusting wife...it's his account. Start acting like a stand up wife and a mature adult.

Answer 10

Sneaky, sneaky.....

Do you spend money secretly?

And why do you have separate accounts?

Did you set out to find a way to delve into his accounts or did it come accidentally?

Moreover, how is he going to feel when you confront him?