How do I tell my friends that I aint runnin an orphanage without sounding mean?

Question

I live with my three year old boy in social housing. Were the only two on the lease. If anyone else gets caught staying with me I can get in trouble for misrepresentation and loose my home. I have my boyfriend who works out of town and stays with me on the weekedns. Im fine with that. I have my cousin a fugitive who I harbour in my basement. He's been with me for four months and has only given me 70$ not even enough to cover the paper he wipes his *** with. And my newest edition... one of my bestfriends who is homeless and she watches my boy for me while I work full time days. She also gives me no money. I am paying for 5 people here. Food, rent, hydro, phone, internet. I cant afford all these people I'm only making minimum wage. I dont want to be mean and kick them out with no place to go but jeez Im a mother of one not four. Im stressed please help.

Answer 1

Girl, how did you get into this? You don't have to rescue every stray cat that comes to your door. Who is gonna pay for this in the long run? YOU! What would you do if you get kicked out?? You're not being mean, you are doing what is best for you and your child, which should be first priority!!! First, you're harboring a fugitive which is a criminal offense and you can go to jail for that. Get your brother OUT of the basement. Yes, I now he is your brother, but who will take care of your child if you go to jail, honey? Next: your friend is babysitting for you for free! BUT obviously she is also living with you, which is against your leasing arrangements. Tell them both your apartment manager said something and they will both have to go so you don't lose your apartment and take your child to a subsidized daycare. The kid will have more fun with other kids. Your top priority is that baby!!! You won't be used by others if you don't allow it; it's not their fault, it's yours for not being able to say "no". Now, make it right while you have the chance.