When going thru these questions and answering them I have found that many of them are from boyfriends. Why don't you marry her before you get her pregnant?? Don't be hateful I'm just asking a question.
2006-07-14 03:55:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Like I said don't be hateful I'm only asking a question. I agree that some men don't know that thier girlfriends arn't taking anything to protect against it but why arn't you protecting yourself against it. Guys its your responsibilty too. Why are you sleeping with someone that you don't love enough to marry. With everything that is on the market today why are you not using precautions?? There are no accidents anymore. Are you not taking sex ed in high school??? Good luck to you all you are going to need it.
2006-07-14 04:22:04 · update #1
Because, in our society today, we're supposed to do 'whatever is right for us' regardless of the consequences. It's always someone else's fault and their responsibility.
I understand that you are not saying that pregnancy should be the reason to get married but before having sex with someone you should at least be in love with them, shouldn't you?
Taking these types of risks without being prepared to take responsibility for the action is cowardly, selfish and weak regardless of whether you are the woman or the man If you aren't mature enough to take responsibility for your actions then you aren't mature enough to engage in the act. So grow up first.
And while it's true that to bring up a child in a loving single parent home is better than a home where the parents constantly fight and bicker, neither of those situations even come close to positively affecting the health and well being of the child than growing up in a two parent home where the parents love and respect each other and are working together as life long partners.
Oddly enough, it's healthier both physically, emotionally and spiritually for the parents as well.
2006-07-14 04:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by Bud 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant is not a reason to get married. And you are being very judgemental. Maybe the guys do want to get married but the girls don't? And then let's think about the divorce rate these days...why contribute to that? If you don't truly love each other, why get married? The child would be better off in an environment with a mother who loves them, rather than a set of parents who are miserable because they got married too young, or didn't really love each other, or because they thought it was "the right thing" to do.
2006-07-14 04:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pose a brilliant question. The answer has always been why would a man want to marry a woman if he gets all the benefits of marriage without the legal contract and commitment. Without that commitment, he can walk out Scot free anytime - and he does. Who suffers? The woman and his child. And that is what is tragic about not marrying before giving birth, - that innocent child born a bastard forever who must endure the taunts of his/her legitimate friends and siblings forever. Forever an outcast and whose father's heirs will never let the bastard share in his estate. Shameful! See Monaco's Prince Albert II example of a father with two illegitimate children who are banned from assuming his wealth and throng. There are bastards working on solutions for wrongs such as this. checkout: www.societyofbastards.org
2006-07-14 04:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I have seen, they can't get along, are too young to commit, or are just plan dead-beats. I Know of someone that complains about all the money that is taken out from child support, he has 5 kids from 4 different women. Never married.
I for one am on your side. I became a Father at age 19, Married at 20, and divorcing after 22 years. We never got along, always fighting (arguing, not a wife beater), now that our kids are in they're 20's, we went our seperate ways.
2006-07-14 04:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by elguzano1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Times have changed. Sometimes it could even be better for the baby that they don't get married. If a couple is rushed into it for that reason, it's much easier for them to end up with a divorce later on.
And Nick, Elphaba is correct. I have a friend that was on birth control who also has endometriosis (which the scar tissue is supposed to make it harder to get pregnant) and she still ended up having a baby girl.
2006-07-14 04:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by ?-?lue-Eye?-? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I went through a scare myself actually. A boyfriend had tried to get me pregnant so that I would have to marry him. When I told my mother about my fear, she just told me, "This isn't the f-ing 60s! It's best not to marry in a situation like this. It would be hell for both." Thankfully I wasn't pregnant and I dumped that guy a long time ago.
And Nick, the pill isn't 100% reliable. Women can still get pregnant when they're taking their pill correctly.
2006-07-14 04:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad question indeed. I pose another question.
Why are these folks having "sex" before they are married? Sex is about hormones, about feeling good, and if you are having pre-marital sex it can only lead to heartache. Just as drugs, say No.
If he loves you, if you love him, you will wait.
Sex has become nothing more than an animal act between two people to simply feel good - it has nothing to do about whether they care about the other person as a person or not.
2006-07-14 03:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think guys are just afraid of the commitment they will have to endure once they are married to the girl. once a person is married things change and it is hard to go back the life they once have as well as they cant fool around anymore. also guy/girls does not usually know that he/she will get pregnant or get the girl pregnant so they have no way of telling if they need to get married first. the best thing to do is stay a virgin until your married then you can get pregnant once your married. also marry someone you love as well as love you back so then divorce isnt going to happen
2006-07-14 04:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by Nes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did my fiance abort my baby rather than marring me when I had bought her a ring?
Many men use women for sex and do not want the children or family aspect. These women should have chosen a more stable man who would not have left them. Life is a series of choices and if you pick your mate poorly you will pay.
2006-07-14 04:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why get married for a reason like that just to divorce later on? it shouldn't matter if he's there for his baby and it's mother, even if he and the mother aren't together anymore. unless they were engaged and then found out they were pregnant, I don't think they should get married.
2006-07-14 04:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jbeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋