He was always in the mood, liked all sorts of stuff and would fulfill every fantasy I had. Now that we're moved in together, and monogamous,he never wants to do ANYthing, not even if I offer him oral! lol. Is he just comfortable and happy but tired from his work (his main excuse), or was I a victim of false advertising?
2006-07-14 03:52:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't really need to spice it up, I'm , uh, talented..lol. He just has NO interest whatsoever and I know for sure he's not cheating.
2006-07-14 04:00:54 · update #1
I am the one more likely to be doing something I shouldn't.
2006-07-14 04:02:36 · update #2
I look better and have LOST weight since we've moved in.
2006-07-14 04:04:02 · update #3
Gad! I've been an adult for quite a while, people!I've also been in other relationships, I have an idea of how these things work..lol
2006-07-14 04:26:44 · update #4
Tie him to the bed and have your way with him! Option 2 lots of batteries!
2006-07-15 05:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Star of Florida 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He might have a medical or psychological problem that is giving him issues. He may not realize this is the problem even or he might know he has a problem and is embarrassed about it. So be delicate.
Try to tell him how you feel about him. Start with the good stuff, prop him up some. Then let him know that you miss sex with him and ask if there's a problem he would like to talk about with you. make sure he understands that he can be open with you and that you'll support him.
Usually a guy that is cheating will over compensate and still want sex with their partner so this probably isn't the problem. However, don't rule it out. Let him know that if he's seeing someone else you'd rather have your feelings hurt now then to let it drag on.
Lastly, it may be legitimate sleep issues. He may have a medical problem stopping him from sleeping or from getting true restfull sleep. This would cause all sorts of problems for him including reduced sex drive and a feeling of needing to get to sleep as early as possible.
2006-07-14 11:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by jjbeard926 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the begining of a relationship (I like to call it the "honeymoon" phase) everything is new. Every experince is new and wonderous with this new person. Clearly the best portion in my opinion. But after a while things get more settled I guess you can say. Now this does not always happen but it happens alot. But as for him not wanting to do anything. That is a bit odd. I could have both my arms blown off and be sick as a dog. I would not turn down oral :P But I would sit down with him and find the REAL problem. Good luck!
2006-07-14 10:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by jpspiderman2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What men don't want woman to know is that they put them into one of two categories almost immediately: good-time only or long term. The minute he slides you into the good-time category, it's almost impossibe to come back out. When you decide to hop in the sack with some guy, force yourself not to be all over him like a bad sunburn. If I was you i'd try to surprise him at work. And no I don't think you were a victim of false advertising because you seem like you made it too easy for him. ***** trick to steal: don't give it up too soon or too much. Men are like Babies. If you give a baby too much food it throws it back up. It's just like giving a man to much sex. A lot of guys like girls who are easy but they don't like girls who don't spice things up.
2006-07-14 11:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how much he turns you on and how much you need him... start doing something in front of him.
I'm tired from work a lot, sometimes too tired... but not ALWAYS....
Did you gain a lot of weight after you moved in together?
hmm... can't think of anything else... if it's not one of the above, there's something seriously wrong with him... especially if he's turning something down where all he has to do is "relax." no teeth! LOL
2006-07-14 11:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by Falcon_01 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a males point of view, I would say that he is tired of the same sex. You have to spice it up, do things you normally don't do. Otherwise he will get it from some other female. Men get tired of the same thing, the same pattern. Switch the time of day you do it. Maybe he actually is tired from work.
2006-07-14 10:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by karnotda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WRONG!--->>> [[welcome to adulthood. people don't have sex as often as you might have been led to believe (by movies, friends, etc) ]]
You are with the wrong guy especially if you are um.. talented!
I am a sex machine. For some people like me it never ends. My Gf is the same way. Find someone you are compatible with. I do not understand him not wanting oral pleasure. I can lie around all day and be "worked on". This guy is a dud, drop him!
2006-07-14 11:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by jeepfaust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be both. Is he still loving in other ways? Have you gained weight? Has he? Not to be ignorant but a physical attraction is important. I guess no matter what, you still need to be happy. If your not move on.
2006-07-14 11:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like false advertising to me
2006-07-14 10:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like ya got married. Do something exciting for him. Wear something you think he might like, and approach him when he has a day off for the next day. Want have to rush things that way.
2006-07-14 10:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by grandma_speedy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋