My boyfriends ex is pregnant will an baby boy. the 2 of them (my boyfriend and her) already have an 3 year old little girl and are doing well with the split custody! Now the issue is that he is afriad that thier daughter will be pushed asdie an not be givien the attention that she needs at her age. Plus this woman is not the sharpest tooll in the shead! He is just worried b/c she has not even explianed to the daughter that there is an new baby on the way and for finacial reasons too b/c she makes min. wage and so does her boyfriend (the new daddy) and not to mention the fact that he has an child from an previous marragie too that he pays for and now there will be 3 children in this home and no $ how do i confrot him and the child thow this mess.I also need to say that on top of this we just found out that she was pregnat and is at least 6 months along we are also in the middel of buying an new home which will be ready to move into soon.
2006-07-14 03:49:15 · 9 answers · asked by kaylee_beach 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR AN YEAR THIS IS NOT HIS CHILD SHE IS WITH AN OTHER MAN!!!
2006-07-14 04:10:56 · update #1
No child is more important than another. Mothers love their children equally. It's absurd to be concerned about her getting enough attention. She'll get the attention any other middle child would receive. It always amazes me how the "ex" without custody, without the responsibility and understanding of what it really means to be a parent can judge or be so critical. If he was Mr. Wonderful and a perfect dad and she is so bad then he would have custody and no one in their right mind will have respect for him otherwise. Girlfriends need to but out! It's not your place and you obviously have no concept of what it is to be a parent. Sorry if I come off so strong it's just that you hit a nerve.
2006-07-14 03:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What goes on in their household is none of your business. When the child is with you she will let you know if there is something wrong. Keeping a good relationship with the ex will make visitations easier and observing how the child does will tell more than letting your uninformed judgments control things. Do not stick your standards in their lives. Give the child loads of love and tactfully make inquiries about her well being but do not start problems by asking inappropriate things. A three year old understands more than most people think. When she is with you you can do things like ask what she likes to eat and what she had yesterday for dinner to yo do not make the same stuff. That will let you know allot.
2006-07-14 03:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by hardnose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not your issue to discuss. Have you considered that your boyfriend thought enough of her to be confident that she should be the mother of HIS child? So I have no idea why YOU would be take umbrage that another man feels the same. If he is a decent parent he will continue sharing custody of his daughter but really, it is not up to you to have any say in the situation because it is absolutely NONE of your business.
2006-07-14 10:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to want to hear this but...
Get rid of this guy - immediately. This new child produced out of wedlock while he was "with" you? Sorry, but this guy is not relationship calibre.
There are lots of guys out there that would love a stable relationship with only one woman. Don't settle for somebody with their priorities out of order. It's better to be single and searching for a good one, versus hooked up with the wrong one.
Based on what you've said, you'll be unhappy if you stay.
2006-07-14 03:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by address.dotcom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I need to knowis it his if not tell him to go getcustody of his lil girl and give reasons to hold up in court. If there is no good proof then you'll never know he may just be jumping the gun!
2006-07-14 03:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you ever think about talking to a lawyer about getting custody of his daughter, it sounds like you can both provide for her better than her mother ever can... I would at least have a consultation with a lawyer to see what your options are
2006-07-14 03:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
On, you are so pathetic. Get out of their business. If he was interested in you in his business, you would be calling him your husband not your boyfriend.
You have some serious maturity issues.
PS: moral of the story is don't be having more babies, you are too immature.
2006-07-14 03:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out!
Find a single man who has no children.
2006-07-14 05:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL HAVE UR HUBBY ASK HER IF SHE NEEDS U 2 TO KEEP THE LITTLE GIRL FOR A WHILE UNTIL THEY R SETTLED
2006-07-14 04:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋