does it take for both parties to move on be ready for someone new again.... feelings are there... i love him but for several reasons, i have decided we cant be together.. its for the best.. and it seems love doesn't conqour all....so i need a split.. how much time do u think i will need
2006-07-14 03:48:53 · 15 answers · asked by lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know its different for other people, but rough estimate..maybe u should ask how long did it take u? if u have been in this situation?
2006-07-14 03:51:48 · update #1
and yes breakup is final... i am making or have made the decision.,.. we will no be togther. .. its too hard in our predicament.. . so being together is NOT an option.... i mean can i really move on?
2006-07-14 03:53:12 · update #2
im 21, so still young
2006-07-14 03:55:32 · update #3
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My dear lady,
This is a real heart tugging question requiring a great deal of thought and consideration. I feel I want to do you justice but we seem to lack sufficient information so will have to improvise where necessary.
I can not think of one reason to split let alone several, but you have made that decision for us and although we would want to explore that part as well can not.
If your love for this person is so heart wrenching strong your loss is going to be as one would pass through a mourning period, and I have known people be there for years.
If a split is the only answer, I hate this, I would think that it is going to be at least 6 months before you could even begin to want to look at another, but there is your answer "to want to". You will know when you are there, and another crosses your path, do not attempt to set an alarm clock so you wake up one morning and ask, "where is Mr New?"
Alas, I read the tears between the lines of your question and only wish I could give you a better answer.
2006-07-14 03:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can answer this for you, cause everyone grieves differently. It might take you weeks or even months to get over the relationship, then again it might take only days. Just be strong and hang in there. Keep yourself very busy as to pass the time better. Go out with your friends and have a few drinks( if your old enough ) but when your out having a good time, don't talk about your PAST relationship. YES you can and you will move on!!
Best wishes!
2006-07-14 03:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is different for everyone...which i know is stating the obvious, but different factors come into it... like for example how serious/long the realtionship was, how often you see them after the split, and how the split ended etc etc
they say it takes twice as long as how long relationship was... my ex and I were together for 2 years, and broke up two years ago.... and i am not over him yet, but thats due to the fact we lived together for months after actually splitting, we have a kid together which means i see him once a week, and our split wasnt that nasty so its harder to move on.... despite the fact that he has had someone new for over a year...
you cant help what your heart feels, and you cant trick yourself into thinking you are over someone if you really aren't
take as much time as you need to get over him, try and focus on bad points of the relationship, have fun with your girlie mates, and dont be ashamed to cry... i still do now two years on which some people will think is strange but i dont care, its better to let it out....
hang in there hun your still young, but dont go getting with someone until you are over him as you can make bad judgements when you are hurting -i know!! lol
2006-07-15 01:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by sinnedfairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to truly heal from a broken relationship, especially if it was long term. Going out with someone else too soon is sometimes a mistake. Although you have feelings for him, you just aren't ready for another commitment and that is understandable. You'll know when you're ready and if he isn truly the one, he'll still be there.
2006-07-14 03:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been married but have had a few heartbreaking splits with girls. Its taken various amounts of time to get over them but generally find that you only truly move on when you meet someone that fills that space in your heart and in your mind that they once occupied... you have to kiss a lot of frogs and you'll never know when love will consume you again until it happens just enjoy being single until you find someone you want to tie up with.
2006-07-14 04:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That soley lies on them I mean all things heal in time so you would have to judge that it could take 1 month or 1 year depending on the person!
2006-07-14 03:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also do about 16 mph surely with the line motorbike so 4 miles ought to take me quarter-hour. it is going to count upon the motorbike thou. i take advantage of a mountain motorbike for commuting and that is way slower 2 miles takes me 10 minutes. in the way homestead from paintings I take the lengthy way, 18 miles about ninety minutes.
2016-10-14 11:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least 24 hours!
It depends how much time it will take you to get out there and have some fun!
2006-07-14 03:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it just takes time with different people. But I believe ususally around a year
2006-07-14 03:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by ~*Katie*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited a year,but 6 months is acceptable.It depends how much in love with him you were,and still are.do not rebound with anyone else,you will lose your self respect.I did.I felt like a right slapper.
2006-07-14 04:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋