I found a number on my boyfriends cell phone that he dialed at 3:00 am. should i ask him about this?;?

Question

we have lived togeather for a year, i found this number by looking at his dialed calls directory on his cell phone

i have accuse in before of things, and have always been wrong. am i paranoid, is it my business who he calls, HELP

Answer 1

Well, if you're asking it sounds like you don't trust him very much. So you need to first figure out if that is his problem or yours. I mean has he given you reason not to trust him? Obviously you're checking his cell phone so trust is an issue but is it your insecurity or has he done something?
Next, if you live together where was he at 3:00 a.m. Does he work during that time, was he out, or was he home with you?
I would only confront him if he has given you reason to doubt his faith-fullness. If its your own insecurity making you doubt him, you need to get that under control or you two don't stand a chance.
Long story short, if he has done something then ya, ask him about it but be prepared to give a reason as to why your checking his phone.

Answer 2

Were you really wrong, or lied to? Do your female senses tell you something is up? If you don't trust him enough that you would want to check his phone records, you must be onto something (unless you have always been distrusting in all your past relationships - then it's you, not him). 3 am sounds very fishy. DO NOT approach him yet. If he suspects your onto him, he will find ways to cover up. Instead, get on the Internet and begin you investigation. Look up the number he called on a reverse directory. Who was it? Go from there. Write down and keep track of his schedule. Notice any patterns? Good luck and I hope this don't lead to a broken heart.

Answer 3

First, unless you pay the bill for that cell phone you shouldn't be going through his dialed calls directory in the first place. This shows a severe lack of trust and if you have this much worry and paranoia you should probably just cut your losses and go find someone else whom you can trust.

Answer 4

If there are other signs that this should be a concern then ask. At least that way when he totally freaks on you for checking his cell phone you will have a defense. If this is the only thing then you really are insecure and maybe you want to work on that. It isn't fair to someone who has otherwise been trustworthy to have a move they make put under scrutiny.

Answer 5

No, because you had no business searching his phone. Don't go through a man personal things. And if you do, don't let him know that you did. If you are that worried, call the number yourself by using another phone that cannot be trace back to you like a public phone and listen to see who answers but don't you say anything.....just hang up. You got to learn to trust and if he is cheating on you, there is nothing you can do about it anyway. So chill.

Answer 6

Well confront him in a suttle manner, not yelling or having a fit. BUt ask him b/c sweetheart I've never heard of a telephone business meeting at 3 am, not to mention in todays time there are way to many STD's to be playin' like that all the time! Good LUck and have a great day

Answer 7

You shouldnt be looking through his phone. If you want a healthy relationship, you need more trust. That being said, maybe it was just a drunk dial. Those happen.
I doubt he's dumb enough to be living with you and making calls to other females at 3 am.

Answer 8

You're paranoid. It could be anything, and asking show you do not trust him. Call the number from a pay phone and pretend to be a telemarketer if you really need more information but don't want to damage the relationship yet.

Answer 9

Women should protect themselves by looking into these types of things. You have been living with him for year, you have every right to look at his phone. That way in three years from now you are not locked down with two kids and a cheating husband.

Answer 10

Ask him about it... sure. But hey... you seem to be very insecure and jealous and it seems you don't trust him. A relationship is rooted on trust and it that is eroded- whether by you or by him it can detrimental to the relationship. Why were looking through his cell phone? Does he act suspicious? That only suggests a lack of trust on your part so talk to him. I bet he'll tell you that you are too paranoid and insecure. But talk it over and learn to trust him.