2006-07-14 03:10:27 · 13 answers · asked by iRa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep busy...find a hobby that interests you, perhaps something you haven't done while you were married? I started going back to the gym and remembered how much I loved it.
2006-07-14 03:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I divorced after 24 years with the same man. ( He cheated)You can imagine how devastating that was. I spent the first few weeks crying and not sleeping. Finally my doctor suggested an anti-depressant. It was a godsend! From there I went to cleaning my house from top to bottom - staying busy helps tremendously. I joined a divorce recovery group at a local church ( even though I wasn't a regular church-goer or a member of that church.) This was probably the most helpful of all. I learned to try new things and joined some community groups I had never had time for before. I started working out at a local gym and got myself back in shape. My biggest concern was how in the world a 42 year old woman even started entering the dating scene after 24 years. The very idea was frightening. All I can say is that there are a lot of men out there who like older women! ; - )I ended up marrying a man 6 years younger than myself and we have been together for the last ten years. I look better and act younger than I felt when I was 30! I guess the key point to my answer is to work on yourself. Your realtionship with him is over. Learning to be alone is scary and difficult. If you get out there and try new things - you will grow from this experience. I do understand your pain - definitely been there done that!
As my brother-in-law wisely told me - "Sometimes in your trip through life you think you have everything all mapped out - only to find you have to take a detour. Then you discover that detour is really the scenic route."
Hang in there! It DOES get better with time.
2006-07-14 10:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just bc you don't have a significant other does not mean that there aren't others like family and friends who can fill the void or lend an ear when youre feeling lonlely or upset. If you don't have too many family member or friends around, then I suggest trying to get involved in your community whether its by going to poetry readings a local coffee house, signing up for some classes at a gym, signing up for a college course, or something along these lines. If you keep yourself isolated bc your in pain then its only going to take more time to heal and waste more of your time on something that is now part of your past and has ended so so that you could have a better and happier future...it might be lonely now but the possibilities for you to enjoy life now are endless and unlimited now that you are no longer bounded by a relationship that was not working..good luck :)
2006-07-14 10:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By getting back in the water again! The first time I divorced I was alone after the divorce for 2 years before I dated again. The second time I divorced I got right back in the ring and found someone I can love and be loved by! If you got divorced, then the guy wasn't worth keeping your heart on a string to "wait out the pain". The pain is over and done with. Do what you have to to be happy right now. It's YOUR time.
2006-07-14 10:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by sweetypie9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have good days and bads days. I was divorced for 6 years. It is wonderful to start a new life. You kind out a lot of things about yourself. I got remarried and we have been together for 11 years. Hang in there. It will all come together. Friends are also the BEST thing!!! They are there when you need a shoulder.
2006-07-14 10:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way shortly after my divorce.. It will pass, time heal all wounds. I am having the time of my life at the moment. Enjoy life, do things that u never could... and do not get involved in a relatioinship thinking that you won't be lonely anymore....
2006-07-14 10:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think being alone is better than being in a rotten marriage. Use your "lonely" time to get involved in things you always wanted to to and make some new friends. If you're busy, you're not lonely.
2006-07-14 10:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a time of self-recovery...try new thinks, like join a health club, take a class in college, learn how to cook new foods from different countries, and the best of all....go shopping! ( for bargains of course)
2006-07-14 10:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take it day by day and try not too think too much. It helps to have friends/family to support you. If you don't, then there are support groups. I couldn't have gotten thru mine without my family/kids/friends...good luck!
2006-07-14 10:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lonliness will go away and you will start dating again and hopefully find a special someone.
2006-07-14 11:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by sparkles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋