Do you think it's okay if?

Question

What would you do if your boyfriend hangs out with another girl at night, alone? He thinks I am overreacting. How can I convince him that it's just not okay? Do you think I should just let him hang out with his female friends and try to convince myself that nothing is going on? What would you think?

Answer 1

BREAK-UP WITH HIM. For your own good, DO NOT COMPROMISE your morals or beliefs to some liars. I don't think you deserve a guy like that, trying to twist things around and even make you feel guilty of the situations that THEY have created. Let him fool around, if that's his nature, but you gotta leave him sooner or later. I hope you open your eyes to the situation you're in right now.

Answer 2

That's a touchy situation. I mean, there are so many thing to consider.

Like, for instance, did you know he was close friends with this girl (or girls) before you started dating him? If so, then I think it's unreasonable to ask him to choose now. If you didn’t know, then you have to ask other questions.

Do think he would ever cheat on you.? Remember, he is a guy. If you do trust him, then you shouldn’t worry about it at all. If you don’t trust him, then you need to ask yourself why you re with him.

Also, how often does he hangout with the girl and for how long. I mean if he stops by and says hi and spend an hour talking once a week or so, then it goes back to how much you trust him. If he spends more time with her then you, then if I were you, I wouldn’t even bother asking any more questions. I would find a new guy.

I guess what I'm saying is that it's all about trust.

One more thing. If he cares about you the way you seam to care about him, then simply sit down and tell him how you feel. Don’t accuse him of anything and don't pry about what he does. Just be civil and tell him that you are uncomfortable. IF eh cares for you, he will make some sort of compromise. But it has to be a compromise. Don’t expect his to just stop being friends with the girl. That will most likely not happen. IF he won’t compromise, then that will tell you exactly what he thinks of your relationship and is a good indication that something's just not right.

Anyway, just be honest, compassionate and willing to compromise. I hope you find this helpful.

Answer 3

If you tell him it makes you uncomfortable and he really cares about you, then he wouldn't do it again. If he's the kind of guy who likes attention from other girls and gives it as well, he'll tell you nothing is going on and make it look like you are the one with a problem. If it really bothers you (it would me, too) stop going out with him. It's not worth it to sit around wondering all the time, and you'll just be miserable.

But there are some guys who do have girls as just friends, and maybe talk to them about their girlfriends or problems or whatever, so it is hard to know for sure where to draw the line and trust them.

Answer 4

No I don't think it's okay. He should be hanging out at night with his girlfriend who is you. I don't believe in that "we're just friends" thing really. Girls have friends that they go out shopping with, and guys have their friends to do guy things with. I believe that if a girl and a guy hang out together for the night, then there's got to be an attraction there. You're in a tough spot. You can't forbid him to not see who he wants to see. But you can walk away if it becomes evident that he's betraying you.

Answer 5

It would depend on how long they have known each other, what their relationship is like, have they ever been romantic? I have a guy friend that is just that a "friend". I knew him before I was married and he is like an ugly big brother to me. I wouldn't give him up for anyone. Find out more about the relationship before you act too quickly. It really could be just friends.

Answer 6

It's not proper, he can hang out with girl friends during day time hours and with other guys around and with you around. He doesn't need to be doing that. Just because he can... it doesn't mean he should. Things happen, if you let the situation arise.

You'll never be unfaithful if you don't let yourself get into that situation.

Answer 7

there is no point for him to hang ou with his female friends if so y don't u do that? do u bliv in guyz ....to go out with gurls but don't do any thing? is it possible if u have a bf and ur out with guyz every night and u don't flirt around those guyz? doesn't make sence if he likes or he is not supposed to do it or take u along with him or another way u have go out with ur own male friend at night...and at that point we should say u guyz see each other ( u n ur BF) just for sex ,no shareing stuff, no love, no deep relation.......what ur sayin is absolu'ly right

Answer 8

I think that you should break up for him, go out with some guys, so he can be jealous and then after a week you should get back to him. And if he really cared about you then he would stop seeing other girls and he would realize how important you are.

Answer 9

I personally wound't have it! I don't think its right, why don't you hang out with them? It's ok if you are around, but for them alone, no way. Tell him he's full of it and if he doesn't stop hanging with her by himself then his friend can have him. It IS hard to believe that nothing's going on.

Good luck with it.

Answer 10

You *do* phrase it so it sounds awfully suspicious.

It's justified to feel like that. There's definitely some insensitivity going on on his side of the fence- make him realise just how you're feeling about him going over that girl's place. If they're friends, fine, but it's not fair on you for him to be so suggestive. Tell him how you feel, and make him see it from your point of view. If he refuses to, he has communication issues.