My wife's birthday is on the 20th, and I can't think of what to get her. Chocolate is already a given. Help!

Question

PS, part 2 of this question...

Should marriage questions be coupled with divorce? Do you have a question about your marriage, ok ask it, but at the same time you have the opportunity to ask about divorce stuff. Maybe it's just me. Doesn't seem to fit. To me it says marriage then divorce. Am I wrong? Am I overthinking things again?

Of course I know my wife after 5 years, but I have already gotten her all that I know that she likes. She is not one to ask. So its up to me.

All of you guys with the simple answers, you have never been married and don't know jack, don't even bother answering this because your mind is too young to comprehend the complexities of a life married.

Smart Marrie...I'm a Cancer

An additional point...Yes I am american, but I am living in Japan right now, so that leaves out the hot spots I usued to frequent. But the massage thing could work. Japanese are the best at massage.

Should I have said, "Married people please help me?" I was single once and thought I knew everything...until I got married...life is so much different when u are married. There are no easy simple just do this or that answers, you need to think about compromises now.

Answer 1

Flowers, dinner, jewelry in that order. Why think of something negative like divorce. You can take that energy and think of ways to make your marriage more successful.

Answer 2

It depends on:

1. How much money you can spend

2. What she likes.

Let me throw out a few ideas:

1.The very popular "day of beauty"
package at a local spa.
(It's popular because almost every women
loves to be pampered!)

2. Take her on a surprise day trip.
It doesn't have to be far or expensive,
but pick some place/thing
the two of you have been wanting to go/do
together for a while yet haven't had the time.
(Making memories together is priceless.
This is my favorite b-day gift!)

3. If you choose my second suggestion,
make sure you buy a little gift.
Perhaps a souvenier of wherever
you two go for her b-day.
Make it sentimental;
something she can look at and
always remember the special day by.

4. Whatever you choose,
just make sure that you buy a birthday card
to compliment the event.
99% of women love cards,
especially if from the one they love.
(For example,
I would be content with not getting anything
or going anywhere for my birthday,
as long as I got a card.
It shows me that even though
he might have no money,
at least he thought about me
and cared enough to get that.)

Answer 3

Geeze, Dude....cool it will ya? Do you want help with the gift or what? I'm going to ignore the rest of the rambling and get to the 'gift' part.

Give your wife a certificate for a day spa! That would be a day she could be pampered with a massage, a manicure/pedicure and a facial. Then take her out to a wonderful restaurant and give her a little gift, like something small and exquisite so she'll think of you everytime she wears it. Maybe a delicate antique ring. The thing is, you took the time to think about her. That's what women want.

Answer 4

You can never go wrong with jewelery. Get something as nice as you can afford. Another idea is a gift to a spa where she can be pampered. Don't buy her clothes because they rarely fit or are not her style when picked by a man. Also, don't buy her lingerie (unless she asks for it) because a purchase of lingerie is more for you than for her. Be sure to deliver with a flower or a heartfelt card. Good luck!

PS: I am not sure how the second part of your question fits in with the first, but I think you bring up a good point about the misfit of coupling marriage with divorce.

Answer 5

Part 1. Give her a day at a spa visit. Women find it so relaxing.
Part 2. It does seem wrong that marriage and divorce are coupled together. There should be two different categories.

Answer 6

How about a long weekend in Vegas! How fun would that be for both of you! Surprise her with a suite on the highest floor you can book, with a jaccuzi in front of the window...have rose petals to toss around the *tub* with some candles....and a bottle of bubbly chilling on the edge of the tub. Forget the candy and flowers- they don't last like memories from a mini-vaction away with you!

Answer 7

Ok, the best gift I ever got from my husband was for our anniversary last year. I thought he had forgotten, but, when we got home he had a big box with a bow on it. Inside was a gorgeous dress (my sister helped!)...he apologized for not having shoes, took me shoe shopping and told me we were going somewhere special. He then took me to a fabulous restaurant where we danced under the stars. It was great and not as expensive as it sounds, if you are concerned about money. We love clothes, for you to try to pick something out even with a little help and then surprise us and feed us, too. Good man! She will be pleased....I guarantee it!

Answer 8

Part 1) Jewelry, lotion, nail polish, bubble bath, gift certificates (spa, salon, tanning, nails), something that has to do with one of her hobbies (does she like to cook - get her a cookbook or a magazine subscription for cooking for example), calling cards if her relatives live out of town, take a mini-vacation to a bed & breakfast or something, get her an ipod if she likes music... okay I'm spent.

Part 2) Yes, you're over-thinking this. Are you an Aquarius/Pisces?

Answer 9

Yes, you're overthinking the marraige/divorce thing.

Buy your wife a gift certificate to a day spa.

Answer 10

My wife loves to be pampered with a massage, her nails being done and a pedicure...

2nd part - you can't divorced w/o being married