Ok so i met this dude on Saturday and since then we have seen each other everyday so its going to be a week now since i met him. I want him to respect me and not think im a tramp, and I want to give in but I didnt. so how long should i wait. PLEASE NO B.S. ANSWER !
2006-07-14 02:30:05 · 10 answers · asked by florlatinspice0825 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
ok I am not going to wait for marriage you guys I am 22 and have already been married so that stage is over with. I want this relationship to last this is why i ask this .
2006-07-14 02:38:20 · update #1
This dude completely respects me and hasnt asked for nothing but those kisses due get really hot and its sooooooooo tempting.
2006-07-14 02:40:51 · update #2
You don't get respect through sex or lack of sex.
It depends on the man, and you probably won't know for certain until later.
If the man respects sex, then having sex will not diminish his respect for you. He'll respect you the same way in the morning. Since he trusted you enough to have sex, that might mean a healthy dose of respect.
If the man does not respect sex (e.g., he just want to "score"), then odds are likely he doesn't respect you now. He is a user (or "playa" to use the vernacular). He is willing to feign respect in order to get you into bed. Once you put out, he no longer has to pretend to respect you. Some women mistake this to mean that having sex meant losing respect. On the contrary, the man never respected these women in the first place.
Sex is a nice activity. It relieves stress and really taps into the pleasure centers of the body. But for some, sex is a destructive tool. It depends on how you view it and how your partner views it. If you have differing views, the outcome will be disastrous.
So, should you give in? Well, if you want it badly enough, sure. I don't think it's healthy to suppress your natural urges. On the other hand, it's also not healthy going into a sexual relationship with the belief that your relationship won't change. It will change, and hopefully it'll change for the better. Just remember that you've known him only for a week. You don't know how compatible you are. You could break up in a month. Sex won't change that. Odds are likely that if you have sex with him, it'll just be a fling that you can look back on with nostalgia. Don't expect him to be your soulmate.
And of course, insert the usual precautions about sex: Use a condom, have a plan for an unexpected pregnancy, be prepared to be a mother if you don't believe in abortion or adoption, etc.
2006-07-14 02:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by Rev Kev 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Respect has nothing to do with how much time you wait to have sex. If he doesn't value you as a human being, it doesn't metter if you sleep with him early or not, he won't respect you either way. But if he does care about you, you could give it up the first date and he'll still respect you.
So do what you want to do. If he disrespects you afterwards, then he's a jerk and be thankful you didn't waste any more time on him.
2006-07-14 02:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Steven S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did not have sex until eventually I went to varsity and in basic terms kissed in intense college. I grew up with my cousins who're boys and that i observed how they dogged out those women those who were common. i do not get why Janet rushed to have sex so youthful. i do not even keep in techniques the guy I dated at 15 so surely I doubt that he quite likes or respects her. that is in all likelihood a fling and seeing how college is over so is that relationship. i'm hoping your pal is way wiser next time.
2016-10-14 11:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. If this relationship is a good one you can wait until you really get to know this guy. Does he really care about you as a person? Do you like him as a person? If you only want sex from him, then listen to your conscience. Be careful.
2006-07-14 02:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jack Nicholson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a nice guy he'll respect you no matter what. You haven't jumped straight into bed which I think is good. You should sleep with him when you are ready. If you feel you're ready then go for it Girl!!
2006-07-14 02:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready.
By wanting to have sex with him and saying no, what does that prove to yourself, except that you aren't doing what you want to do.
If its in your nature to have sex with him the first week of knowing him and you don't. Not only are you lying to yourself, you are lying to him as well. Why not talk to him about it, unless you dont really care about the relationship going any further than sex anyways, then you might as well have sex with him.
2006-07-14 02:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by jlrgds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aint no guy gonna respect you if you have sex with him unless he really loves you, and you really love him. and if you really loved him, you wouldnt've asked this question.
yeah, i'd wait until marriage too, although personally, im against marriages of any kind for the reason that they destroy love.
2006-07-14 02:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by Maus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No BS answer....
Until marriage would be lovely.
If you can't make that I would suggest until you have made a life-long commitment.
If you can't make that, something greater than a week.
2006-07-14 02:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sir J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sell yourself fast. Delay it as much as you can and don't give up. He would offer marrigae fast that way. None but that is a success.
2006-07-14 02:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by SPECTACULAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are married.
2006-07-14 02:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋