my g/f is very prude sexually with me...it doesn't seem right though because she has had many partners before me and has told me the things that she has done with them, yet absolutely refuses to do anything with me...we love and trust each other and it would make sense to me that she would be more comfortable and open sexually with me than with these other guys who were drunken hook-ups to begin with...whenever I ask her, she tells me that she won't do these things with me because she actually cares about me and does not want the relationship to become just physical...however, the relationship is building tension b/c of this...It makes me very jealous of these other men who meant nothing to her, yet she was very "kinky" with them and is very prude with me...Does this make sense? Any suggestions???
2006-07-14 02:29:13 · 16 answers · asked by oldsoul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
maybe she thinks that intimacy is more important in a relationship than kinky sex!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-14 02:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all sounds very normal. She loves you --be hapy for that cuz without that u have nothin to build on. I think the key to great sex is talking! Asking her what she likes--asking if this or that feels good--so many times men dont take their time during sex and they doint communicate. Make it your goal to maximize her pleasure everytime u have sex. Tell her this is what u want to happen. Over time i really feel she will open up to u---and then becuz she loves u the obvious question from her is how can i plz u. Thats when --taking it slowly u let her know the avenues ud like to go down. Also u must consider that these sexual activities that she will not do with u she did not enjoy. If thats the case then work around them-hope this helps.
2006-07-14 02:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm.you are right that is pretty disturbing..I would be dead jealous too lol and i totally agree. Well for her she did those "things" with those other guys because she thought that it was just a one night stand or just didn't mean anything for her. But with you it's diferent...I guess she actually cares aabout you and takes you very seriously. Maybe try talking to her.but im guessing you tried that lol..Just tell her that it could bring you guys to another level if she could just open up a little..even if she needs time to do so. Tell her you love her and you really need to feel that you are the one closer to her than anybody else. Or you can also try to be kinky lol (that should turn her on ;) ). Try going down on her or something...
Goodluck!
Take care.
2006-07-14 02:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by 4eva-pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it makes sense she wants the relationship to last between u to and my suggestion is let her make this decision on her own I used to be that way with my bf now were extremly sexual. And all those other guys I told him about treated me badly I was sexual with them to but when I got into this relationship I was a prude until I got comfortable around him and now were in love and we trust eachother.
2006-07-14 02:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you feel. tell her that you need to know that she loves you and that to back up what she is saying maybe could she show you with a little action. a girl is tied emotionally to any guy that she has sex of any form with. she might have told you about the other guys so that if you are thinking of marriage then she won't have to worry aout telling you then. this way everything is more like you know what you want to marry. she might be afraid to lose you. i bet if you proposed....never mind. try not to press it because if she really likes you then she is also afraid to lose youand the emotional tie that you had created together would seem overwhelming and unbarable. just try to remember that she loves you and that she's made different.
2006-07-14 02:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by Punkd_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's perfectly alright and there's nothing to worry about. She loves ya and want to keep this relationship special from other past relationships. If you love her, you should wait for her to make the decision. YOu just can't force this issue. Is physical intimacy more important to you than a long lasting relationship with her???
2006-07-14 02:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by denizen251 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm Maybe in her mind her being kinky and doing all those thing was what went wrong with her ex's so I guess she didn't want to repeat the same mistake. Or shes just waiting for you to open up because she's fear she might scare you away cuz she's a freak like that. who knows just work it till you get it.
2006-07-14 02:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant "get her to", she has to want to. I see this as being her problem, not yours, so either she chooses to do whatever she needs to to get herself both mentally and physically into you, if she loves you, why wouldnt she WANT too? If she remains a "prude", she's obviously has her mind/sexual thoughts with someone else, you are very right she should be more open with you, she should WANT to be, she loves only you, right?
2006-07-14 02:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by sassygalsurvivin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it makes alot of sence she is worried it will complicate things and maybe mess em up all together, but if you have a problem and shouldnt because its the past before you, but she shouldnt of said anythin if she wasnt willin, maybe you guys should get out go do somethin get alil buzzed you never know what mite acure but most of all need to be honest with her and how you feel she will explain more or see it your way, good luck and hope she opens up more my husband is wantin me to be more kinky and I am tryin I just havent with anyone else it makes it more special but still hard for me, good luck,
2006-07-14 02:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok sweety you replied your individual question yet to on the threshold of are conscious of it. i'm going to attempt to help. First i visit tell you as a mom you recognize whilst your baby is having intercourse or no longer. yet right here we flow. initiate out by capacity of explaining to her that she raised you basically right and which you recognize with regard to the full no longer having a baby in the previous i became waiting because of the fact she herself had me whilst she became purely 17 and he or she might continually talk approximately how having a baby in the previous you're arranged makes existence lots tougher. Then clarify to her which you and your g/f are prego and have thought all this by after which basically lay the plan out for her that your g/f pronounced she does not desire to get married or have me flow in together with her basically yet yet she did say she needs me and her to advance the baby mutually. i'm presently going to college complete time, working section time, and my g/f pronounced she needs me to end college no be counted what. Then clarify to her which you the two have thought this each of how by and you basically desire and desire her help on your selection. additionally it extremely is extremely helpful to have your g/f there and can desire to no longer. in the experience that your mom nevertheless flips out then you definately dont desire your g/f to hearken to it, except you have an open relationship like that. after which back you will possibly be able to desire to desire her there in the experience that your mom loves her reason then your mom will basically be so excited. That 0.5 is your selection. i'm hoping that this helps you with all that your dealing with.
2016-12-14 08:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by everitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she did them with these other guys while drunk, get her drunk and see if she will do them with you. It could be that she loves you but not really attracted to you physically, at least not a lot
2006-07-14 02:35:04 · answer #11 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋