to explain a little a married couple breaks up and live seperate lives but never get divorced. i have buddy that is married but hasn't lived with his wife for 10 years. why wouldn't you just get divorced.
2006-07-14 01:58:33 · 16 answers · asked by SLICK77 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i should have said more really but i'm divorce and i had a knock down drag out and i know it is expense but the first thing i thought was i don't want any connections with this woman it took me about 10 months lol
2006-07-14 02:05:20 · update #1
I don't know if they r seeing other people but it is a sin to get a divorce n some people love their mate but just don't know how to live together and I know someone who got back togther after being seperated for ten years and r working on their marriage. So pray for them!
2006-07-14 02:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by leenabootie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I am married 12yrs and my wife and I separated 9 months ago. She moved to PA and our son and I live in NC. I told her that I would never file for divorce because I love her so much and want her to come back to us. If anyone files for divorce it will have to be her. She most likely will, but if not then we will remain separated. I just don't want to give up on us and I love her too much to let her go. I remember all of the good times and how she had loved me once and I want that back.
2006-07-14 09:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by scheib65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband and I are seperated-have been for 16 months. We are in the process of divorcing--very very ugly. Honestly, other than the fact that I hate him and he hates me, we probably would have just left well enough alone and just lived our seperate lives. However, I want NO connection to that man at all...The sooner it is over, the better...
2006-07-14 10:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by la_diablita_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's complicated. I've been separated for 15 months, after he cheated, and have not felt married for well over a year. For me, it's an issue of avoidance. It's like scheduling a root canal- it already hurts, you know you need to get it done, but you dread the pain....... I wish I would have filled out the papers when I saw a lawyer the day after I found out, when I was angry. This just seems like it's taken too long.
2006-07-14 12:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, when mine walked out the door he couldn't say it enough that he wanted a divorce. I've never met a couple that DIDN'T divorce after a seperation.
2006-07-14 10:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a lot of reasons for this, most of them financial. I also have a friend who is seperated for years and not divorced. His excuse is that he doesn't have enough money for a lawyer.
They could also be very old fashioned or take their vow of "till death do us part" very seriously.
But I think it's because of some money issues.
2006-07-14 09:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The money it takes to get the papers drawn up is a lil much and then they would have to go into court and the this is mine and this is yours type of deal. That gets a lil messy and mabey that is why they dont want to approach that and just moved on. I think it is better that way you dont have to spend all that money, time off of work to go to court and the frustration of the whole mess.
2006-07-14 09:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not worth the pain, cost of divorce, and the trouble to them. I can only guess.
2006-07-14 09:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by raven s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know why they are not yet divorced but maybe because of a financial reason or may be because they socially don't want to be divorced
2006-07-14 09:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probaly either due to money issues and or if there is insurance policys wether life or medical if they get divorced the other wouldnt get crap
2006-07-14 09:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋