In desperation, will a woman use another man to take care of her kids if the baby daddy wont do it?
2006-07-14 01:52:20 · 15 answers · asked by Yahoo answer dude 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is an interesting question. I married my wife 12yrs ago when her two children were 12 and 10. She told me that she loved me and would die for me. I love her more today than the day we got married. The strange and very sad thing about it, is as soon as her youngest son was out of school and on his own her love stopped. I had raised her children as if they were my own because they never saw their father. He deserted them when they were 2 and 4. We have been separated now for 9 months and she is now with somone else. So I guess it is possible. I thought she truely loved me. One night she told me that she only married me because I was good to her children. It's very sad, because I get her all of me and I still love her to death.
2006-07-14 02:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by scheib65 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women "use" men to be fathers the same way men "use" women for sex. This question is so cynical - and so are a lot of the answers. Of course women need help raising children - no one can do it by themselves, even though they try, it's just not feasible.
It's ridiculous to assume that every woman who has a baby is looking for a dad for her kids, but every woman who is alone is looking for a partner. In that partnership, if there are children involved, then yes, guys need to man-up and take care of them. It is VERY commendable when a guy takes someone else's responsibility - but why is it commendable?? It's because women allow men to shirk their responsibility so that when they actually do something above and beyond what they're supposed to do, they get a metal.
Yes, some women are deadbeats too - and are maybe predatory and looking for an easy way to deal with the immense burden they've been placed under. But most women are very responsible, hard working, and have their children's best interests at heart and are truly looking for someone to be with in all aspects of their lives - not just to be a dad.
2006-07-14 10:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by headshrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, It does not even have to be in desperation, it can be planned. Why men get involved with such women I will never understand. After all, if she picked a dead beat to mate with there must be a problem with her. She may have used the man just to have a baby. I know a few woman who have had 3 babies with 3 different men and collect child support with all three plus has a shack up bf too.
2006-07-14 09:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absoulutley they will use another man if the daddy of there kids is a dead beat. Its all up to the man if he wants to raise someone elses kids and alot of men dont care if they care for the woman those guys i applaude them. In fact my brother has been going through the same thing for the past year hes dating a girl with two kids whos daddy will not support the kids and his girlfriend will not file child support on him cause she dosent want him to go to jail.She dosent work so my brother takes care of her and the kids such a fool.
2006-07-14 09:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u care for the woman then u should care for her kids also n want them to have the oppertunity to have the balance of being raised by a man and a woman together.
2006-07-14 09:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by leenabootie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In desperation, a woman will do many things.
Kids need a strong male role model. if their biological father won't do it, it's very very sad. But another man who can step up to the plate is a very honorable and generous man (and probably deserves a better woman than one who will breed with a guy who abandons her and his kids)
2006-07-14 09:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on her thoughts but yeah there is some do that go into dates just to get a daddy but remember not all of them and not the most just a lil bit so if ur trying to judge ur gf or a women u know dun count on that thought !
2006-07-14 09:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's up to the character of each person.
would a man use another woman to raise his kids if the real mother can't/doesn't want to do it?
2006-07-14 08:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by tttpsunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not in desperation.....As a single mother...if i meet a man that wants to be apart of my life and my daughters.....provided he is a good man, then yes i will have him take care of her......
2006-07-14 10:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldnt but
there are some women out there that r Goldiggers
2006-07-14 09:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋