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My wife and I have always had an up and down sex life. We got married a little over two months ago and had amazing sex during our honeymoon but when we returned it completely stopped. It has now been over two months and there has been no sex. I've made attempts and have been rejected every time. I even went down on her about a month ago and she stopped me about 10 minutes into it saying she had to pee and she didn't like the way I was doing it (the same way I had always done it, the way she has always enjoyed it). She doesn't masterbate and it just seems odd to me. I'm not a woman so I don't know if this is normal or not. Any ideas?

2006-07-14 01:45:22 · 15 answers · asked by imagineus2night 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

well she gave me several reasons, exhuasted from work, problems from our past, hormones from being off birth control. it wasnt just sex either it was also kissing, love you's, everything. if you look at my other questions you will get more detailed information as to what has been going on.

2006-07-14 01:50:21 · update #1

15 answers

She is unhappy with something n bc ur not focussing on her emotion she doesn't have a desire for sex. Women connect sex with emotions, so try to find out what is really bothering her.

2006-07-14 01:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by leenabootie 3 · 1 0

I read your question and all your previous questions, and what I want to say is that you are right to complain about that.
I don't know what has happened before between you...(you mention that you had bad experiences in the past...between each other), but anyway, from what I can get from the details that you give, I am sorry to say that, but she doesn't love you.
You are doing your best to work things out (at least this is what I get from your explanation) but if she does not put any effort into it, then all this is worthless .
Well my dear, I'm 24 and never been married, but I can surely say that this marriage is not working and things are very bad.
Well, what you should do is take her hand (I know that you may have done this even before but...) and ask her to sit down . Then begin talking about everything and talking and talking,...but don't fight or debate, just talk about what's going on and ask her what does she think about that. Ask her what she wants from you, if she would like to get away from you or what else...
If you see clearly that she is tired of this situation and that her feelings are absolutely lost, if you see that she doesn't love you anymore (you can understand it by her gestures and words) then, darling, I'm sorry to say that, but this is over.
Try to accept this and move on, there is nothing left to do.
If she doesn't love you anymore (she has alreay though about divorcing you, which is a very bad thing) then give up.
Be sure that she's not the only woman in the world and that you'll find a woman that makes you happy.
You can not force things to happen.
I'm sorry if this is not what you wnated to hear, but this is how I see all this.
I wish you the best of luck!

2006-07-14 10:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0 0

What happened after the honeymoon? Did anything in your life change? Did she say anything that you might have missed?

Did you return to a stressful environment that wasn't there during the honeymoon? Are either of you having job or parent problems?

Also, could it be that she misses the "magic" of the honeymoon? One of the reasons they call it a honeymoon is because it's like a vacation where all her needs are catered to, there are no responsibilities and nothing is "real." Which is why it's called a honeymoon. Maybe the return to reality and the routine of daily life depressed her.

It might not have been the sex, but the environment it was in. She might now be disappointed that daily married life is nothing like a honeymoon.

If this state continues, please see a therapist, it might be very easy to solve and you two owe it to yourselves.

2006-07-14 08:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by brian k 3 · 0 0

she doesnt really love you.
and she is now regreting getting married
to you.
she loves the other guy but probably he
doesnt love her equally or he is also attached
to another woman or he stays far as u said.
Thats why she is not ready for a divorce.
Watch out, she might or might not divorce you
depending on the other guys decisions.

2006-07-14 10:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by lil 2 · 0 0

I think you need to ask yourself if you've hurt her feelings in any way...also what's going on in the rest of her life? There may be stressors present that you don't know about that's taking her energy and mind elsewhere.

2006-07-14 08:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by heather 1 · 0 0

The longest my wife and I ever went was about a month, but mostly it was outside circumstances that prevented it from happening. Have you asked her what's up?

2006-07-14 08:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well first off is there any reason she would be insecure with herself? Is she overweight? If she has insecurities and does not feel comfortable with herself you are going to need to reassure her that you love her and you find her completley attractive and she makes you completly happy and you want only her.

2006-07-14 08:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by leoslady3900 3 · 0 0

it might be time to just take her out of the daily work load and you take over for a while let her have some time to herself and let her work out her problem be supportive to her do what she need to let her have time. you might even need to send her some ware to take her mind of thing that are happening in her life. i been through what your in and this is how i got my wife back.

2006-07-14 08:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0 0

Obviously she has a problem ask her. Maybe you need to get her turned on first, lots of foreplay, sexy talk, porn, find something that makes her hot. Foreplay works wonders, kiss her, caress her, massage her.

2006-07-14 08:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0 0

Try talking to her!! Communication is the strongest link/support in a marriage - use it!

Maybe she has a secret that she doesn't want you to know about!

2006-07-14 08:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0 0

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