she's married w 3 small kids + finally kicked her sleazebag husband out a week ago, and we have been "just friends" for 3 months now and still talk pretty much every day + see each other a few times a week...
2006-07-14 00:37:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
give her the space she needs. It would be unfair of her to just jump into a relationship after a separation with her husband. dont worry, she does like you, but just needs some space, okay
2006-07-14 02:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 2⤋
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2016-10-14 11:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, just go along with what she wants, but dont push her. She has had a really bad relationship, and is feeling very insecure right now; let her see that you love her by sitting down and talking, tell her you understand that she is concerned about getting involved too soon, in case it goes wrong again. She really has a hard road to walk right now, especially with children, so just be there for her, and tell her you care, buy her little treats and be gentle. She deserves that, and everything good is worth waiting for!!
2006-07-14 06:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with what she has on her plate she NEEDS to chill out. She has a marriage to save or end and adding an affair to the mix doesn't help, AND 3 small kids. She doesn't have time for you right now. She has some sh*t to take care of and re-evaluate her life. You may or may not be a part of that so prepare yourself.
2006-07-14 00:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i mean she has 3 kids and just got out of a relationship...do you think she really wants to rush into something new? I mean she probably wants to make 100 percent sure that she isnt getting into another bad relationship....if you really care about her you won't push the issue. Give her time to figure out what she wants to do with her life.
2006-07-14 00:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She now needs to sort her head out and find where she's going. You need to give her space and respect her wishes. It may be that her husband was no good. Now she is very likely wondering if she wants to go through all that again.
2006-07-14 00:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an affair is never a good idea. She's probably not going to leave him for you, no matter how much a jerk he is.
Move on from her and accept the decision. Basically, she's just not that into you.
2006-07-14 01:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has three small childeren to think of an buy the sound of it her last relationship was not a happy one so she is propley worried about going straight in to a new one. you should try talkin to her and tell her how you feel she might like the fact that your being so open.
2006-07-14 00:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by bunnybabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she just went through a divorce
and although she may say she doesnt feel anything
for him it still makes youfeel a little sad
to have to go through a divorce u need to try to
comfort her and have patience for her
u will be way better off eventually (when u least expect it)
2006-07-14 02:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE JUST wants to keep her own space and be herself. she dont want to get tied down right away. its only been a week for her to be herself and have her own space and freedom and she needs to think of her actions affects her children's lives too.
whats wrong with this? she likes herself. and she is only wanting to be friends, let her be.
let her enjoy her life now. and her kids.
respect her space and her choice, if you cant do this, then you are a jerk too, time for you to move on.
DID YOU FORGET SHE IS A MOM??
2006-07-14 00:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep being her friend. Don't push or you will push her away. Be there as you have been, maybe even back off a little - it will surprise you the effect this will have! Good Luck!
2006-07-14 01:41:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋