I am an unhappily married 31 y/o male that is being openly "pursued" by a much younger co-worker(she is 20).....should i test the waters or just ignore it.....even though co-worker is very interesting and drop dead georgous........
2006-07-13 23:48:57 · 30 answers · asked by Confused in NC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get a divorce and live your life. Or, keep living a lie and wimp out. Then you can do the "what if?" thing for the rest of your life.
2006-07-13 23:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK first off do not use co worker as way out of marriage! You two got married for a reason , try work it out,if not ,then do it mature and say I think our relationship is over , no matter what,, feelings do get hurt. Just don't cheat ,because that means you still want to be married ,but lacking something in relationship and might need to find out what it is and try to fix it before someone gets really hurt.
2006-07-13 23:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by its_ok_im_here69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was you unhappily married before the younger co-worker, or... did she do it? Dude... invite the Co-worker over to your home, introduce her to your wife, treat your wife like a queen while the co-worker is there, and when you go back to work... you will more than likely see that the younger co-worker is pursuing someone else! You were 20 once... you know how to play that game!!
2006-07-13 23:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by john's brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well marriage is nothing to play around with. I think a lot of people have forgotten the deep commitment that it means.
I would say try to make it work before you go thinking of divorce.
If there are kids involved...I would say you need to cope with mom somehow until kids are older.
If you have tried everything you can to make it work...well then you have no choice. Don't do anything with that other girl until you get your marriage thing taken care of or at least have an agreement with your wife that you guys are splitting up.
2006-07-13 23:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being unhappily married isn't an excuse to cheat. Either seperate from your wife and pursue this lady if it's that important to you or forget about it. How would you feel if your wife did that to you?
2006-07-13 23:52:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First figure out what you are going to do in your marriage. Then if you are unhappy, end it. Don't stroll into another relationship while you are married. You may be able to fix your marriage with a little counseling. Just because something looks good doesn't mean it is good for you. (Meaning the drop dead georgous) She could be infested with every STD that is imaginable. Remember TLC's song 'Waterfalls'?
2006-07-13 23:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by amissybell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're single you can mess around as much as you like but if you're married its a no-no!
If you're unhappily married why are you still together? Either do something about it or break up. Staying together for keeping up appearances but meanwhile messing around is asking for problems.
2006-07-13 23:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by III 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try and fix your unhappy marriage first before you make any foolish decisions. You owe that much to your wife and if you have children you need to be a responsible adult for them. If you find out you and your wife cannot resolve the problems you are having you should end this relationship first before looking to another woman. And personally I do believe a 20 year old is a bit too young for you.
2006-07-13 23:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappily married, why are you still married? Are you a masochist?
Get a divorce, and then go after the coworker...i bet she will not have anything to do with then however, because she is probably just going after the 'safe' men, the married ones....
2006-07-13 23:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wish to pursue this then file papers of separation before you engage in another relationship. This will prevent your wife from divorcing you for infidelity and taking you to the cleaners. A separation agreement allows you to pursue other options without breaking the law.
Trust me man, it's the best way to proceed.
2006-07-13 23:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by lovpayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if your spouse wants to try marriage counseling with you. Don't pursue that co-worker unless you divorce your wife first.
2006-07-13 23:53:05 · answer #11 · answered by Jack Nicholson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋