I stayed with my late friend for over six weeks when i lost my job and the were both caring. The wife put to birth two weeks when my friend died in a motor accident. I was still living with the family and the baby even know me as the father. somehow i got a job and started taking care of the family. The wife tricked me and i make love to her and she even want me to marry her. Is this how i have to pay my late friend back will he not be angry with me in the grave?
2006-07-13 23:43:47 · 25 answers · asked by baba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you love her and have feelings for her then I would think your late friend would be very happy to have you take care of his family for him since he can not be. If you do not love her then you need to move out and find your own place. Remain in contact with her and the child but do not let the child think you are the father. Good luck
2006-07-13 23:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't slept together, what were you almost caught doing? I don't know how to sugar-coat this, so I'm not even going to try... Dude! What is wrong with you? You're acting like a chick who's helplessly at the mercy of her own emotions! You didn't just fall in love with your best friend's wife. You nurtured those feelings and you made a conscious effort to get closer to her. You're a disloyal friend and a threat to his marriage. You're confused because you don't have the strength or the courage to do the right thing, which is to tell your best friend what you and his wife have been up to. You also don't want to put an end to your forbidden flirtations. You're a pathetic excuse for a man.
2016-03-27 04:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have answered yourself! You operated on feelings of sadness and remorse and "took advantage" ( Or... perhaps her vulnerability got the best of her).
The fact that you are asking total strangers what to do is clearly an indication that you are unsure and feel trapped. Dead people do not have expectations. Think of your friend as being alive, what would he want? That is right...he would want you the hell out! You can still have a relationship with the kid if you truly are a best friend. There might be a tumultuous time while the grieving widow figures out how she will survive, but as an "Uncle", you will find your opportunity. Don't forget, it sounds like you were blessed by these peoples' hospitality. The best thing you can do is be the historian for your deceased friend. I don't hear that you are in love with this lady.
Best of Luck!
2006-07-13 23:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by Quincey jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "somehow" started taking care of the family? The wife "tricked" you into having sex with her? If you didn't care about your friend in the grave before it got this far, why does it matter now? Don't hold out any hope that his family will embrace you with open arms.
2006-07-13 23:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She tricked you?! No one can trick you into having sex; you do that be cause you choose to. I'm sure your late friend is already angry! Now that you have some requirements put on you, you want to run. When you had a free place to live & a woman to have sex with without the responsibility, it wasn't a problem. How convenient for you!
2006-07-13 23:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might just be looking for support. sounds like all this is happening very fast. what you probably need is time to yourself to think about this. the fact that you mention that the wife "tricked" you cannot be a good sign. sounds like she's a little manipulative. be careful and mindful of what it is you want. if you think you're making the right choice then i'm sure you're friend wouldn't be mad.
2006-07-13 23:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by the man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"IF" the wife tricked you, do you want to marry her? As far as the marriage thing, I do not believe your friend would have a problem... Unless, you and wife had something on the side, had feelings for each other while he was alive, and/or snuck around to be with each other. If one of them are true,,, then.. you were not a friend to him. It is o-kay to marry... or... just be friends and see if she finds someone else to :"TRICK"!
2006-07-13 23:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by john's brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, he was your friend first if he was still alive you would'nt think about it! (or would you?) All in all you cant change the fact that you hit it already show some respect and find a new lady with no ties.
(you still can be there for the kids if thats what you were trying to do (or where they pawns)
2006-07-13 23:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by im_tired_of_dis_bullshyt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where I'm from, it's against 'the code'. Men should have a code of conduct, a code of honor. Even if your friend is dead, the code still applies.
Your karma is shot. I suggest you get out of the relationship immediately and move on!
2006-07-13 23:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by crazyotto65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did she trick you? Is she related to the Wonder-Twins from the 70's cartoons?
Did she say, "Wonder-Twin powers activate!"
And did she then proceed to disguise her vagina like some type of sperm receptacle like the kind you commonly find in doctor's offices used procure a sample?
2006-07-13 23:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋