i tried to avoid this meeting out once by giving excuses. i invited him to my office since he wanted discuss something 'personal'. They - my friend and he are newly married, some few months back. I am already married since 3 years with a kid. But, he is still insisting me to go for a lunch with him the next time hez back from out of the country. I am not sure what he wants to discuss. Nor do I feel it right to meet him out for lunch alone?What should I do? Should I atleast meet him once out? Or ...I dunno! kindly guide.
2006-07-13 23:13:05 · 13 answers · asked by smiling_smiles2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hey - curiosity killed the cat... at the very least, if u r dat curious to know, ur husband and ur friend should be informed that this is happening. that's if u yourself have a clean mind! she's your best friend, does that not mean anything in terms of faithfulness??? she comes above him, i hope. so think about what she would want you to do!!!
2006-07-13 23:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best advise I can give you is follow your gut. If you feel that he is 'UP" to something and it isn't more then a friendly lunch between to adults that know each other then don't go. How does your husband feel about this? Does your Best Friend now? Maybe he is taking you for lunch cause he wants to discuss what he should get his new wife for her birthday or something. Is that a possability??? When you invited him to the office to talk about something "Personal" what happened? Only you know in your heart what is right here? I would talk to your Husband though, you don't want bad blood there. Good luck to you. ;)
2006-07-14 06:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by pinkribbons&walking4boobies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need a bit more information, what is it that he discussed the last time? Has he made any advances to you?
If no, then maybe he just wants your opinion on a gift or something for his wife, and since you are her best friend your opinion would help.
If however he has made some advances to you, all you have to do when he calls for a lunch is say one word...NO
2006-07-14 06:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are having thoughts that shouldnt be there. If he is married you are married, why cant you go out for lunch. There shouldn be any problems when meeting with friends as part of your promise to your husband is been loyal, and by having lunch you are just socializing. Unless you and him have had something going on in that case shame on you both.
2006-07-14 06:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by wiseornotyoudecide 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go. If you have no bad intentions then he won't either, right? No matter what you two discuss, I get the feeling you may think this is an attraction thing on his part, as long as you are faithful to your husband and friend, there should be no problems.
2006-07-14 06:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 cases. Either he wants to discuss something related to his wife which you know better (being her best friend) OR he wants to start a relation that might not be innocent (you know what). In either case I would suggest meeting him at your office and giving him the cold shoulder if he gets to the second case. Typical behavior and excuses of a lewd-minded person.
2006-07-14 06:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not go. You are married and he is married to your friend. You should know the answer to this. He is trying to have an affair with you. If you are married and can't discuss your relationships with your spouse or your friend then you know its wrong. Don't be a home wrecker or a whore.
2006-07-14 06:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by amissybell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wellz,uh.Do you know this guy pretty well.you should kinda base your decision on that.sorta.like,would he be the type to try something with his wifes Best friend.If he seems trustworthy,go.but by the sounds of it you dont seem to trust him.I can see why,but dont get too paranoid just because he said its personal.another thing,make sure that your Best friend wouldnt be offended of anything.=].
If you think its safe or what not,just go.Youll never know what he wants to talk about if you dont talk.and if you do go tell your husband to make sure.
And if he does tell you something that makes you feel uncomfortable,just tell him what you feel.That will help tons.Trying to avoid going will not help any.
Good Luck!=]
2006-07-14 06:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, going out with friend's husband was nice cause you gotta know him more. There's no problem with that. Its a friendly lunch out.
Nothing to avoid.
2006-07-14 06:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by annaliesse_coolgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go someplace very public and casual and upbeat, nothing dimly lit or the slightest bit romantic. He may indeed have something very important to talk to you about and just feels comfortable talking to you. Good luck.
2006-07-14 06:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by rsqur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋