I gave birth 2 our baby 6months ago.now he's not interested in sex anymore, i make a huge effort with underwear n stuff but it makes no difference. he says he doesnt mind my few stretchmarks and a bit of baby weight. also i've asked him if he's cheating n i'm pretty sure he's not. so what can it be?
2006-07-13 22:47:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Loss of interest in sex can be a symptom of stress or depression. Having a baby can be a stressful change in anyone's life, not just the mother's.
Speak to him about how he's feeling. Encourage him to see his GP or a counsellor if he needs to.
Some men also change how they view their partners after childbirth, from someone they desire as a sex partner to someone they respect as a mother to their child. Some men can't reconcile the two. Another example is that some men change their perception of their partner's breasts from objects of desire to utilitarian feeding implements.
2006-07-13 22:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by k² 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cant say I blame you for wondering because 6 months is a long time. You may want to plan an evening for just you and him. Have someone keep the baby, prepare his favorite dinner, get a good movie, a new and sexy piece of lingerie. If this effort doesnt rekindle some kind of spark then its time for you to put it all on the table. Let him know how you feel and ask the questions you want the answers to.I was always told anything worth having is worth asking for..ask for the truth.
2006-07-13 23:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in the same situation he is not cheating on you my bf wasn't that interested in sex after for a good couple of months but not we are like rabbits and my baby is 10 months now.
he could be a bit jealous of the amount of time you spend with the baby so when you bathing or feeding the baby get him to help.
i believe it will never be the same when a couple have a baby but in a good way. it changes your life for ever just give him time he will be alright the stress that a baby can put on a man is much worse that what a woman feels a man has to provide for the woman and child
this is why a woman should never have a baby just to trap a man it will never work.
good luck
2006-07-13 23:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by sh04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes more than just underwear to get someone interested. Are you interested in him? When he gets home from work do youhave time to sit and talk to him liek you used to or is it all about the baby? No matter how much he loves you, you talking about the babies nappies or worries or how much milk he/she had today isn't very sexy.
Is a granny close enough to leave baby with for an evening? Arrange a lovely date for your man, be there with a kiss, dressed up and freshly showered for him when he gets home from work. Listen to him, laugh with him again, remind him of the woman you are and that you are still interested in him as a person as well as loving your baby. I guarantee fireworks will begin again.
Then keep it going, set aside time for just the two of you. Be interested in him, don't talk just about the baby. You two were a couple long before the baby came along and hopefully still will be long after baby has grown up!
2006-07-13 23:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till everywhere is peaceful and sit him down calmly and tell him he is making you feel rejected. Ask him what is wrong? Is it that he is tired? A 6 month baby could be keeping him awake do you expect him to be turned on in an hour`s peace of the day or night. If he is working in the day without much sleep this could be a reason.
2006-07-13 23:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly55freedom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparantly it happens to a lot of guys when the baby arrives. Something to do with viewing you as the mother of his child rather than a sexual partner...I don't really get it because I never want kids, but the chances are you guys just need to talk, give it some time and get used to being parents.
2006-07-13 22:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by jocular_japes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to seduce him wiht your new baby maybe staying at the Grandparent s one night? The arrival of another person in the realtionship can affect the bloke. My mate suffers from this where as I am having to fight my wife at present with 1 20month old and she is 5 months gone! Nice touch though with the undies, we are usually very easily pleased. Youncould try that old chestnut and talk to him though!
2006-07-14 04:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by Monkeyphil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may feel jealous of all the attention the baby's getting (men are often like children themselves). Either that or he's cheating. Sorry.
2006-07-13 22:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the shock of a baby coming out of you has freaked him for the time being, well at least i hope that is it, but the only other conclusion is the one you already suspect so just hang in there for the baby until you have solid proof!
2006-07-13 22:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lost sex satisfaction with you and he's cheating with another woman. One or the two unless he's gay now. Change your sex life by trying something knew.
2006-07-13 22:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by pepperspray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋