Me and my guy are 18 and 19 and he's sorta ready to get married while I'm just starting college. Do you believe that young marriages never make it very long?
2006-07-13 22:40:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Statistic show its a rarity for them to last.. I got married when i was 18 and he was 19 , a month later i got pregnant.. 5 years later he left me for another woman saying we got married to young and that he needed to be free.. so there i was 23, with 2 children.. quit college for him.. because he said "you can do that anytime" except any time didnt happen.. I loved him more then life itself, worshiped the ground he walked on, knew at 18 i had what it took to stay married to him for the rest of my life.. he swore he'd never leave that he didnt want a divorce because we both came from divorced families and he didnt want to do that to his kids.. he was a good father while we were married.. but in the 10 years now that we've been divorced he's seen them less then 10 times...and half of those times were me begging him because our children were crying wondering why daddy doesnt want to see them...and he calls maybe once every 6 months.. pays his child support whenever its convient for him.. ect.. Do yourself a favor and atleast finish college first.. that way if it doesnt last you atleast have the means to have a decent job to support possible kids.... The decisions u make right now.. affect the lives of possible children in your future.. think about that.. good luck, I hope you make the right decision..
2006-07-14 00:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until you finish college and are somewhat settled in a job. If it's true love, it'll last. You have the whole rest of your life to be married. College is a time to explore and it's best not to be tied down. As far as it lasting....I really don't think age matters that much. A lot of people get divorced saying "we were too young, " but that doesn't mean that yours wouldn't work out. About half of all marriages end in divorce nowadays and they didn't all get married at 18 so I don't think it matters about age. I do think it's best to wait until you're a little older though and out of school.
2006-07-14 05:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you'd asked this question 50 years ago I would of said yes, go for it.
But in this day and age things are all so much more complex, morals have changed, ideals have changed, people are not brought up to believe that marriage is forever. There is no fault divorce, making it to easy to opt out instead of work on a marriage.
I truly believe that people today need to really work on their relatioship and know what each other wants out of their life, the marriage etc to make it really work. Take you time to get to know each other better, and to be sure that is what you truley want.
2006-07-14 05:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so the real question is are you ready. College is great and gets you ahead in life. IF he loves you he will understand that you want to be with him but just need time at the moment. Just tell him you would really like to finish college and you would love to be with him as well. You can be engage and still have him and college. But its really what you want in life. And some marriages do last some dont, it just all depends.
2006-07-14 05:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Island Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are just starting college, you are bound to meet new people from different walks of life which sometimes makes a person consider who they are and what they believe. Right now is a time for you to grow and change and that's difficult to do while married. It has nothing to do with infidelity, it's about learning who you are as a person. What happens if you change and your husband doesn't like who you are becoming or have become? What do you do at that point?
2006-07-14 06:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife and i got married at that age, i suggest waiting. Marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment. I am completely in love with her and she isnt at all with me. Now i need to find my own place to live. You can move in togeather and even wear the rings if you want but as far as the marriage goes dont rush it.
If you would have told me this when i was in your shoes i would have said f-off but now i am hurting and i dont wish this kind of pain on anyone. If you are ment to be you can wait it out a little and be sure. Its better then being 22 and going through this crap.
2006-07-14 06:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i won't say that they never make it very long, but the ones that do are the exception.
i think both of you still have a lot of growing up to do, whether you know it or not, and you may very well grow apart if you jump into marriage. i'd say finish college, get a job, give it a few years. if your love can't survive the wait, it wouldn't have survived the wedding anyway.
2006-07-14 05:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by gwenwifar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on morals and maturity. I was 17 he was 19 and we have been together for 12 years with 3 beautiful children. It's been great !
2006-07-14 10:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by m915 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no better time than when you are young, there are so many ups and downs that older people just give up to easy, oh to be that young and truly in love again, i would do it in a new york minute! love roccks!
2006-07-14 05:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No coz the only thing that sticks most unions together is ambivalence and teen wedders think they owe themselves a second chance.
2006-07-14 05:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by life_boat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋