It's been over 11 years and it still hurts when I hear news of his wife and baby i pretend i am happy for him
but for days i am pining when will i hear from him again and i dont sometimes for weeks
i know it was true love but how do you let it go? and how come it still hurts after all this time?
thanks
2006-07-13 22:11:52 · 13 answers · asked by natalia g 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Yes you can be friends with an ex but in you case I do not think you can be friends with your ex. You cannot be friends with someone that you have feelings for. If it is true love then it will happen, that may be your only comfort. It still hurts because you have not allowed it to heal. After you broke up did you sleep with him again, and how often. To totally heal you must accept the end and not secretly hope that you will get back together again. Ever time you wait by the phone or agree to get together for coffee you open the wound again. Time heals all wounds but the condition is that you accept it.
I'll think about you and send you some luck as I have been in your situation before so I know how you feel.
Take care of yourself, and know that I'll keep you in my thoughts.
2006-07-13 22:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by kid_flav 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-08 13:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have unresolved issues with this man. I know the feeling. There's this girl I've known for three years... She's happy with her boyfriend, and her daughter. The best I've been able to do in order to get by is recognise that I do love her. I loved her as she was when we met, three years ago. I also recognise that she's a different person now, and that I am too. And I try to move on. I go out, meet new women, try and find what happiness I can away from her. I still miss her, still long for her from time to time, though mainly when I can't find a date. It was true love, that much I know. It'll always hurt every now and then, but someday, you'll find someone to fill in that void with love. It may still hurt from time to time then as well, but at least you won't be alone, and you'll have someone else to love. And to be loved in return. Have faith. It's probably best to distance yourself from your ex, but if what you really feel is friendship, then you don't necesarily have to let it go, but rather recognise it for what it is. But don't be afraid to move on.
2006-07-13 22:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by shadowscarlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess, u have made up ur mind to stick with him (even though his not really there) forever...which ought not to be.
As far as his concern, you no longer exist, that is why he has not bother come for u.
Some wounds at time take a very long time to heal, but know that, it will eventually healed.
Try and forgive him, if he has hurt u in any way, refuse to think about him, (this might not be an easy thing to do), any time the thought comes up, ask God to help you forget about him...and pray for him too...know that the devil is trying to use that to distract you from focusing on ur future and other important things that will help you achieve your goals in life. most espercially a better man
I want you to know that, it is still hurting you because, you get really emotionally inolve with him.
I will be praying with you from here...and i hope that you will get over all this in Jesus name...you can read the book of John:15,16&17.
AND IF U WANT TO HEAR MORE FROM ME, HERE IS MY E-MAIL ADD.agbenyiess@yahoo.com
2006-07-14 04:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by agbenyiess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you can't be friends, you can be civil to each other but that is all. If you still have feelings for and ex and they are involved with someone else the right thing is to stay away from them. You say you care so let the ex have a shot at a happy relationship.
2006-07-13 22:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, You can become friends. I don't know how long have you been together and what causes both of you to break up but once your relationship is over try to get over it asap.
Since he had get married, learn to forget him and wish him happiness for his marriage but it would be a tough road to walk by yourself. Time is a good medicine to heal this type of pain. Try to mixed around with your own friends and make new friends.
2006-07-13 22:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl...I am having the same thing here...I told him honestly that i still have feelings for him, and told him i will go a way from his life and cut all the communication for while, not to be his enemy...just to be alone for a while just to give you time to heal the pain and forget about him. Just until all the feeling is gone...
You can talk to him again whenever you feel ready for that. I hope it works for you...
2006-07-13 22:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by belle_chocolatiere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can. I have the same problem, I am happily married but I think about him alot and when I hear that he's doing good bah bah bah it hurts inside. I choose not to stay with him but at the time we didn't want the same things.
2006-07-13 22:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by HPEmomofone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex turned out to be the best friend I ever had until his death, and in turn I was the best friend he ever had, we were roommates or housemates for 21 years, and for the last 10 years he lived he had bone cancer, I was so sorry for him, he had the best of care.
2006-07-13 22:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by jeni 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so..given that you still love him, just pray for enough strength to bear those pains. Don't establish another relationship(friendship) with him instead seek for closure..and u will b happY!!
2006-07-13 22:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋