This all started when my neighbor challanged my son whom is a brown belt in Karate to fight his son whom is a wrestler. He first tells my son whom is 11 that Karate is crap, and then says, "Let's see what you got." He puts the two boys on the trampoline, and makes them fight. Well, my son bloodies the kid's nose, and my neighbor gets angry, scolds his boy, and sends my boy home. Well, ever since, he's called my son names like 4 eyes, whitey, calls my husband, and I names to my son... Well, it's come to the point where this neighbor has started making up things on my son, and calling the police, and now my son has had to see the JPO 2 times. There is no proof, and my son even had a witness the first time, but still it keeps on. The JPO even says the guy needs to grow up, but that she has to send my son's case back to the D.A. We have sold our home, and moving. We even caught this guy stabbing our pool, and filed charges that case is pending...Is this serious for my boy?
2006-07-13 21:33:28 · 14 answers · asked by K S 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
LOL, he whooper, my son beat the pants off the kid. Thus all the harrassement from the dad. On a more serious note, I had no ideal this guy was pitting the kids against each other.
2006-07-13 21:40:26 · update #1
You should calmly inform the police of the events and how this guy is twisting the truth. Do not provoke him and get the hell away from him - he is a NUT. Tell your boy to stay a long way away from him. Stay calm or the police might believe his insane stories. Why must people be like that? He needs a life....
And tell your boy to never ever get into a fight like that again!!!! That was stupid of him. No ice-cream for a month!!!
2006-07-13 21:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by pieter U3 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hindsight is always 20/20 but it probably would have helped to stop this madness before it started. In order for this neighbor to behave this way, there probably was not strong communication between you two in the beginning. That is irrelevant now because it's escalated into something harmful for your family. Get a notebook and document everything that has happened and is happening. Include dates, times, description of the incidents, any witnesses and any other pertinent information. Document everything even if you think it's insignificant. Keep this information in a safe place. Talk with other neighbors to find out if they or their children have had any problems. He may make a habit of bullying others which will help your side. He most likely is bullying his own son as well. Can you talk to the boy's mother? It may help to get a video camera or have someone housesit if the house is vacant so you can prove he has been coming onto the property and/or vandalizing the property. It may also help to talk to the police department about getting a restraining order. A person who is troubled enough to do what you are describing probably will not be appeased to let it go. He may bother your son at school or Karate practice. It is better to put the authories at each location on alert. This could be serious for your son if this man is able to use the court system to continue his bullying. Unfortunately, it is impossible to predict how a case will turn out until it happens. There are just too many variables involved when one is standing before a judge.
2016-03-27 04:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a no-contact order on this fellow. Any adult harassing a child is reason for concern. I would advise placing a small tape recorder in your son's pocket or backpack and having him make sure it's on record anytime he's about to pass the neighbor's house. That alone would be proof enough to get the no-contact order. Then I'd see about setting up a security camera or even a simple system to keep Bozo out of your yard.
Also, anytime your son has an encounter w/ this fellow, call 911. Have officers come out and make a report. Even if nothing comes of it, at least when it comes down to your son's word against the neighbor's word, he can't go and say, "but he's a juvenile deliquent, look at his record."
I know it can be embarrassing to have officers come to your door frequently, but it would be worse if Bozo somehow managed to make it so you had to visit Jr in Juvi Hall.
Good luck.
P.S. Keep a journal along w/ all police reports.
2006-07-13 21:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by L S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is serious. He needs to see that bad people are punished, and it doesn't sound like that is happening in this situation. Please go back and talk to the DA and get him to talk to your son about injustice, and how sometimes there is nothing the police can do, and explain that he is not to blame for being the victim of a crazy manipulator.
The problem is, kids expect the world to be fair and just, because that is what their parents told them is right. Then the first time they are confronted by injustice, they don't know how to fight it. That's not unusual, because many adults do not know how to fight it. But the DA is supposed to know how.
Good luck to you; it sounds like a real mess.
2006-07-13 21:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds serious enough to hire somebody to document this guys actions and to seek a restraining order against him. Of course i am taking everything you are stating at face value. I would look inot you son as well. It could help you in defending him.
2006-07-13 21:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say, just keep your son away from this maniac!! You already done a good job by reporting this sick guy to the police, and I hope and pray that your charges will eventually come up with something stronger to keep him away from your family, esp. your son, for good.. Just pray that this will be over soon.. God bless!!
2006-07-13 21:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by savedbymercy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say so, not only is he going to have to carry all the lies on his record that this guy is saying till he is 18 imagine what he is having to go through mentally. If I were you I would talk to an attorney and see if you could press slander charges on the guy.
2006-07-13 21:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah I would say it is serious, it sounds to me that this guy is really immature or even jealous of something. even though you are moving your neighbor could find you where you are moving to and keep harrassing your family, I would get a restraining order if it keeps up.
2006-07-13 21:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by Hauss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is serious for your boy. That neighbor of yours is a psycho and murderous! Get the hell out of there fast
2006-07-13 21:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by koolkat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this obviously will effect him. I think you really need to make sure that your son realizes that this man's behavior is
a)Inappropriate
b)Unacceptable
c)Immature
d)Probably unrelated to anything your son did (deep seated issues obviously)
2006-07-13 21:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋