In Sept. of 2005, my boyfriend ended an affair he was having and asked me to marry him. This woman kept calling well into Oct. and even sent him early Christmas presents. My phone bill reflects 3 calls to her to ask her to stop the calls. One day she called me 5 times to tell me he loved me but that he was in love with her. Two days later she sent me a letter threatening me with a restraining order.(OCT) Finally in Feb. I was able to respond to her letter of threat to say "What? You called me!!!'etc. In April 2006 I sent her an Email asking her if she would like all these expensive gifts back if not I would toss them. The Email did not go thru . She blocked it. But yesterday I got a letter from her attorney threatening a restraining order if "All these Emails didn't stop" I called Att with"What Emails?" Att.said she would return my call but has not. Should'nt she have to produce these so called emails to me if she is going to acuse me? I think I am the one being harrassed.
2006-07-13 19:29:04 · 8 answers · asked by richg2524 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Your story is not credible.
She has evidence that you called her at least three times and she got a restraining order against you for those calls. She got at least one damning email to go with those phone calls. All she is asking for is a reinstatement of the restaining orde she once had against you. That is what a judge will see.
You said you stopped hearing from her in October and yet you contacted her in April when the restraining order ended. Why? The gifts weren't yours to return. Expensive or not you should have left it to your boyfriend to do with them as he pleased. Instead, you gave her cause to get a lawyer. You are definitely the harrasser here. Leave her alone.
As for your boyfriend, are the two of you even living together? If not, none of this even should be happening. You shouldn't be having anything to do with her. If you areliving together, why aren't you married yet? Could it be that he doesn't want to marry you? He cheated on you. That is a big sign that he doesn't want to be married to you or anyone at this point. Take a step back and think is this guy really worth all these headaches? If he is then ask him to marry you? If he doesn't then you are wrong about him, so; move on.
You want to know what kind of deal this is? It is called jealousy. You know the other woman exists and you hate knowing it. Get over it, or move on clear and simple.
2006-07-13 22:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 Step Process:
1) Dump the cheater, he's obviously a complete idiot.
2) Wait to see if the harassment does not end.
3) If not, get a restraining order.
Also, don't be surprised if that attorney is just her friend or someone stupid like that. I wouldn't take it serious as the only reason you would need to worry is if you have done something wrong or illegal.
Something to think about: How do you know that boyfriend isn't in on it? He may not want to "break your heart" by dumping you so he sets crap like that up so you leave him over the stress. Anyone who cheats and then wants to get married right after is a nut. It will end in divorce.
2006-07-14 02:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Boob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep records of ANY contact she makes with you. E-mails,phone calls (record them),letters,etc. You have the right to fight a restraining order and have your side heard.Even if you lose,no big deal. She has to pay filing fees and attorney costs.If she has money to burn, let her burn it!
2006-07-14 02:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Snowdog74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump your cheating boyfriend. Ignore the sicko woman. Change your phone number. Find a real man.
2006-07-14 02:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the point to all of this? Your boyfriend doesn't exactly sound like the ideal mate and you have no reason to contact the "other woman". Just let it go and move on.
2006-07-14 02:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by Carl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a sick boyfriend and a sicker woman that he was having an affair with!
Someone has an affair on me better have their bags packed!!
2006-07-14 02:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by cantcu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her and move on. Why do you have to be right? Just get on with your life. You're letting her have WAY too much of your time.
2006-07-14 02:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your ISP
change your phone
change your man
move on
2006-07-14 03:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋