What can I do?

Question

I am young and have OCD, which seems to be getting worse.
I did notice, in May 2005, a friend started calling me regularly. I enjoyed the calls. The caller would sing to me and play an instrument for me,which also talking to me about anything that went through his mind. An acquaintance of ours moved away late 2005 and because of it, a few incidents occurred. Since the incidents, my friend hasn't called by himself. I noticed my OCD wasn't so intrusive during the times I talked to him, it was almost as if I didn't have to think about my disorder because it didn't matter, but now that he doesn't call anymore, it has come around again, worse than before. It never fully went away, but his calls seemed to help. I'm going to a new school this year, as is he, but we will be in different schools. I thought our schools would play each other in football, but that doesn't seem like it will happen. I don't know if I like him, but I do know we were good friends and I miss his calls. More in a min.

I know a lot of people would say call him, but I can't. I'm not allowed to call boys, my parents are afraid I'll become a boy crazy girl. (all my friends, except a couple, are guys, but I've never had a boyfriend, nor liked any of tyhem as more than a friend). One of my girl friends told me she'd call him and just nochalantly see why he doesn't call anymore, but she seems to be more preoccupied with her troubles. I don't want to date him, I just want us to be friends, like we have been for the last 2 years...So many memories, I just don't want to let him go. I don't have any way to contact him and other than Wal Mart sitings, I won't see him. I haven't seen him since school let out and the last time I did, he was getting into a mini van...He was one of my best guy friends I ever had, and I just want him back. What can I do?

Answer 1

Maybe you should give him a call by yourself..Maybe something happened during that time or he just thinks he's being annoying..could be many reasons..Give him a call and just ask him how's it going and that you haven't talked to him for a while so you just called to see how he's doing..Everything is going to be fine .Don't hesitate and give him a call..
Good Luck =)

Ok now you said you are not allowed to call guys but you know.. you are not going to do something bad with him or that your parents don't approve.. He just makes you feel good and that's all it matters.. whether you like him as a guy or not you will realise through time..But I still believe you should give him a call or txt him yourself rather than having a friend do it for you..Honestly think about it.. I suppose you are not allowed to call guys so you wont become one of those girls who is dating every week a new guy or something like that.. You like this guy because he used to make you feel good and happy.. For me thats all it matters and calling him is not wrong..You could talk to your parents about this and im sure they will understand because all they want for you is you being happy..

Answer 2

i don't know if you actually like him, but depending on the situation, i think you are dependent on him because of your OCD, i can't really tell if you like him or you're just dependent on him because his phone calls are the only things that keep your mind off OCD-ing. maybe talk to a doctor, of course don't tell the doctor about the part of you liking him or not, tell him that your OCD is worse when your friend doesn'tcall everyday, maybe it has something to do with your sickness. if the doctor says it isn't, then you just THINk his lack of phone calls make your OCD worse, after THAT you'll know if you truly like him or not. maybe your thinking that your OCD is worse by him not calling, is actually your heart and mind making tricks telling you in a round about way; that you like him and its making excuses for you to be around him. anyway. first step, see the doctor about your OCD, ask him if you can be dependent on someone. if he says you can't, you've got yourself an answer. good luck! =) ps. sorriee if its a little complicated to understand, i tried my best to put it in accurately chosen words. *smiles

Answer 3

Make up your mind about him and get on with your solidifying the relationship.

Answer 4

send an email

Answer 5

i stopped reading.